https://www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/2018/08/embark-essay-aggression-internet-twitter-human-nature/
"YOU NEED TO have your throat cut out and your decomposing, bug-infested body fed to wild pigs." An anonymous Facebook user wrote that—and more that's unprintable—to Kyle Edmund after the British pro tennis player lost in a 2017 tournament.
After University of Cambridge classics professor Mary Beard spoke about the history of male suppression of female voices, she received Twitter threats, including "I'm going to cut off your head and rape it."
On Martin Luther King Day this year, an anonymous Twitter user lionized the man who killed King some 50 years ago: "RIP James Earl Ray. A true fighter for the white race." The same month, U.S. President Donald Trump tweeted that his "Nuclear Button ... is a much bigger & more powerful one" than Kim Jong Un's. This capped weeks of dueling statements in which Trump called the North Korean leader "Rocket Man" and "a madman" and Kim called Trump "a gangster" and a "mentally deranged U.S. dotard."
The internet is a particularly volatile place of late. Aggression on social media has reached such a pinnacle of acrimony that some U.S. House members proposed designating an annual "National Day of Civility." The proposal drew civil responses—but also tweets and posts of wrath, ridicule, and profanity.
Is this aggression on social media giving us a glimpse of human nature, one in which we are, at our core, nasty, belligerent beasts?
No.
It's true that hate crimes are on the rise, political divisions are at record heights, and the level of vitriol in the public sphere, especially online, is substantial. But that's not because social media has unleashed a brutish human nature.
			
			
				In my work as an evolutionary anthropologist, I've spent years researching and writing about how, over the past two million years, our lineage transformed from groups of apelike beings armed with sticks and stones to the creators of cars, rockets, great artworks, nations, and global economic systems.
How we experience the world is intensely shaped by who and what surround us on a daily basis. Today that can include more virtual, social media friends than physical ones.
How did we do this? Our brains got bigger, and our capacities for cooperation exploded. We're wired to work together, to forge diverse social relationships, and to creatively problem-solve together. This is the inheritance that everyone in the 21st century carries.
I would argue that the increase in online aggression is due to an explosive combination of this human evolutionary social skill set, the social media boom, and the specific political and economic context in which we find ourselves—a combination that's opened up a space for more and more people to fan the flames of aggression and insult online.
Let me explain. We've all heard the diet-conscious axiom "You are what you eat." But when it comes to our behavior, a more apt variation is "You are whom you meet." How we perceive, experience, and act in the world is intensely shaped by who and what surround us on a daily basis—our families, communities, institutions, beliefs, and role models.
These sources of influence find their way even into our neurobiology. Our brains and bodies constantly undergo subtle changes so that how we perceive the world plays off of, and maps to, the patterns of those people and places we see as most connected to us.
			
			
			
				This process has deep evolutionary roots and gives humans what we call a shared reality. The connection between minds and experiences enables us to share space and work together effectively, more so than most other beings. It's in part how we've become such a successful species.
But the "who" that constitutes "whom we meet" in this system has been changing. Today the who can include more virtual, social media friends than physical ones; more information absorbed via Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram than in physical social experiences; and more pronouncements from ad-sponsored 24-hour news outlets than from conversations with other human beings.
We live in complicated societies structured around political and economic processes that generate massive inequality and disconnection between us. This division alone leads to a plethora of prejudices and blind spots that segregate people. The ways we socially interact, especially via social media, are multiplying exactly at a time when we are increasingly divided. What may be the consequences?
			
			
			
				If the antagonizers on social media face no repercussions, that encourages the growth of aggression, incivility, and just plain meanness.
Historically, we have maintained harmony by displaying compassion and geniality, and by fostering connectedness when we get together. Anonymity and the lack of face-to-face interaction on social media platforms remove a crucial part of the equation of human sociality—and that opens the door to more frequent, and severe, displays of aggression. Being an antagonizer, especially to those you don't have to confront face-to-face, is easier now than it's ever been. If there are no repercussions for it, that encourages the growth of aggression, incivility, and just plain meanness on social media platforms.
Since we'll continue to be influenced by whom we meet virtually, the next question is: Whom do we want to meet? What kind of society do we want to shape and be shaped by? That is, how do we modify the whom by which our brains and bodies are being molded—and thereby reduce the aggression?
Humans are evolutionarily successful because our big brains have allowed us to bond together and cooperate in more complex and diverse manners than any other animal. The capacity to observe how the world operates, to imagine how it might improve, and to turn that vision into reality (or at least make the attempt) is the hallmark of humanity.
And therein lies the solution to the problem. We are equipped with the skill set both to quell aggression and to encourage cohesion.
For countless millennia people have acted collectively to punish and shame aggressive antisocial actions such as bullying or abuse. On social media, where the troll is remote and anonymous, even the best intentioned individual challenge may devolve into a shouting match. But confronting the bully with a group action—a reasoned, communal response rather than a knee-jerk, solo gesture—can be more effective at shutting down aggression.
			
			
			
				Consider the impact of the #MeToo movement, the Time's Up movement, and the Black Lives Matter movement. Look at the public pressure brought to bear on media corporations to monitor "fake news" and hate speech.
These are excellent examples of how humans can leverage social media to nurture what's positive and sanction what's negative.
After the mass shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, activist students called out their Twitter trolls and shut them down. The neo-Nazi rallies have diminished, and some of the alt-right hate websites have been taken offline—all because thousands of people stood up to them and said, "No more."
Yes, it seems that the world is getting more aggressive, but that's not because we are aggressive at our core. It's because we haven't been stepping up, in unison, to do the difficult social work our contemporary world demands. That means standing up against bullying, abuse, and aggressive harassment, and fostering pro-social attitudes and actions. In person and on social media, we must do both.
			
			
				LOBBING HOSTILE LANGUAGE ONLINE
How—and why—are American adults abusing one another on the internet? In 2017 the Pew Research Center crunched the numbers. In a study of some 4,000 people, four out of 10 said they'd been subjected to harassing behavior. Politics was the issue most likely to trigger the harassment: About a third of those who'd been attacked—Democrats and Republicans equally—said it was due to their political beliefs. More than half those who'd been harassed said they didn't know the perpetrator's identity; nearly nine out of 10 said the anonymity online provides cover for vicious and harassing behavior. Among the adults polled, slightly less than a third said they responded or took some sort of action when witnessing someone being harassed online, and slightly more than a third said they made no response. —Nina Strochlic
			
			
			
				ANTISOCIAL MEDIA
When the Pew Research Center asked people how they handled their most recent exposure to online harassment, 61 percent said they ignored it. The rest said they made some sort of response; within that group, the top six responses, ranked by popularity below, ranged from confronting the harasser online to deleting or changing the name on their own account online.
39% did not ignore online harassment. Here's what they did:
1. Confronted the person online
2. Unfriended/blocked the person
3. Reported the person responsible to website
4. Confronted the person faceto-face or via text/phone call
5. Discussed problem online
6. Changed username/deleted profile
			
			
			
				I'm pretty much what you see here with a little frivolity and fraudulence tossed in for fun.
In real life I would probably act the same towards online acquaintances as I do here. The very few I hold in contempt would be held in contempt. The very many I like, admire or enjoy will be greeted with bon homie. Those I do not react to in any way will probably feel ignored...not because of animosity or disregard...simply because there is no obvious common ground. That, of course, may well change in person. 
I am one of the few that does not hide behind a keyboard, cloaked in anonymity. I purposely refuse to cowardly interact with people as a shadow. That does not mean that if YOU do, you're a coward. Females in particular must sadly exercise discretion and protect themselves from predators. 
However, if someone enjoys making derogatory and demeaning comments and statements about others online, whilst wearing a cloak, I regard THAT as cowardice. If you feel the need to criticise, insult, vituperate or denigrate, do so as who you are. 
That does not include, of course, those who act in an obviously humorous and witty way. 
But if you genuinely call someone out yet conceal yourself, you can hardly be taken seriously.
			
			
			
				I'm very different in real life. I'm rather shy and reserved.
			
			
			
				Quote from: "Shen Li"
Many people tend to say things in the online public arena they wouldn't in real life.
			 
			
			
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Many people tend to say things in the online public arena they wouldn't in real life.
True.
Those who act like they think they are all that online are generally the biggest loners in life.
			 
			
			
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Interesting...I use to be that way but I got so very sick n tired of people and their shit.  I do respect the elderly tho and always will.
I dont have time for anyone in public anymore.  This city...people are just bloody rude...I'll toss it right back in their face...ain't it incredible when someone in public treats you like trash and you return the favor, they look at you shocked...stupid motherfuckers...like yeah, the whole world revolves around your dumbass right? If you disrespect me, I'll disrespect you...instant karma and I love it...but I will move the hell outta here one day to a small town...this city just feeds off you.
			 
			
			
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Interesting...I use to be that way but I got so very sick n tired of people and their shit.  I do respect the elderly tho and always will.
I dont have time for anyone in public anymore.  This city...people are just bloody rude...I'll toss it right back in their face...ain't it incredible when someone in public treats you like trash and you return the favor, they look at you shocked...stupid motherfuckers...like yeah, the whole world revolves around your dumbass right? If you disrespect me, I'll disrespect you...instant karma and I love it...but I will move the hell outta here one day to a small town...this city just feeds off you.
Don't get me wrong Berry, I won't take shit from anyone. I mean I am rather shy and quiet in social situations which is the exact opposite of my online persona. I'm still sweeter than fucking sugar in real life though. ac_razz
			 
			
			
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It's true ya know. ac_sothere
			 
			
			
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Interesting...I use to be that way but I got so very sick n tired of people and their shit.  I do respect the elderly tho and always will.
I dont have time for anyone in public anymore.  This city...people are just bloody rude...I'll toss it right back in their face...ain't it incredible when someone in public treats you like trash and you return the favor, they look at you shocked...stupid motherfuckers...like yeah, the whole world revolves around your dumbass right? If you disrespect me, I'll disrespect you...instant karma and I love it...but I will move the hell outta here one day to a small town...this city just feeds off you.
Jesus Christ Girl, the way you're talking here i'm getting the idea you walk around the streets of Gotham with one radioactive eye and a shoulder mounted mace canister. 
You need to kick back and smoke a doob
or 200 of them.
			 
			
			
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It's true ya know. ac_sothere
Of course.
Shy Shen.
			 
			
			
				Caskur is awful in this life, real life, half life and the after life. Even the devil wants her to stay alive so he doesn't have to deal with her. 
have you people taken my advice and put her down with a moose gun yet?
			
			
			
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Interesting...I use to be that way but I got so very sick n tired of people and their shit.  I do respect the elderly tho and always will.
I dont have time for anyone in public anymore.  This city...people are just bloody rude...I'll toss it right back in their face...ain't it incredible when someone in public treats you like trash and you return the favor, they look at you shocked...stupid motherfuckers...like yeah, the whole world revolves around your dumbass right? If you disrespect me, I'll disrespect you...instant karma and I love it...but I will move the hell outta here one day to a small town...this city just feeds off you.
Jesus Christ Girl, the way you're talking here i'm getting the idea you walk around the streets of Gotham with one radioactive eye and a shoulder mounted mace canister. 
You need to kick back and smoke a doob
or 200 of them.
Someone has got to do it...might as well be me.  I got to be a role model for my kid...I gotta teach her to never let anyone walk all over her or even try to take advantage of her or any situation....stand your ground and be in charge, always.
My current behaviour stems from a certain situation that has really changed me and my kid...there is no room for bullshit, assholes or cunts.
I am in the bath right now, but I can guarantee when I get out, I will be puffin on a doob.  I like the ideaof me with a radioactive eye and a shoulder mounted mace canister. Lmao
			 
			
			
				I have the same electrifying personality in real life as I do here. ac_toofunny
			
			
			
				I have no great love for some muslim/negro loving traitors..
May all manner of harm come to them.
			
			
			
				I'm some what different IRL, usually White folks are the easiest to get along with, then Black Canadians, Hindus, and last are Muslim, Chinese and Italians which is the ones I can't stand, usually I tell the dipshits to go back to where they came from or just stfu.
			
			
			
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Being Taiwanese, I have had disagreements with mainland Chinese..
Not all of course, but some do come here to represent their government.
			 
			
			
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I have lived more than half of my life outside Canada. A lot of that time in African or Mid Eastern shit holes. I can get along with most people. Islam is not about getting along though. It's about conquering.
			 
			
			
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There are too many immigrants period. And that does not include the rapefugee scammers.
			 
			
			
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There are too many immigrants period. And that does not include the rapefugee scammers.
I agree most refugee claimants are probably economic migrants..
But, I don't believe they are any more likely than any other men to rape.
			 
			
			
				I tend to be the same way in real life as I am here.
I want to enjoy myself, I want to learn, I want to see the world through the eyes of others.
I try to not hurt other people. Not intentionally, anyway. And I always keep in mind there's a person behind the handle. Like Leo, I'm not a big fan of those who have genuine emotional mischief on their mind even as they hide behind an anonymous handle.
Even though I might check my Facebook or Twitter accounts two or three times a year, I tend to stay away from social media. I don't read the comments sections of news sites; these are a troll's paradise.
I like online forums because they're cosy and intimate; you get a chance, over a long period, to become familiar with the geography of other people's personalities despite the features of their online personas.
I try to remain true to my own principles without feeling the need to whack other people over the head with them.
I try to receive other people's views and opinions in the most sympathetic light possible. I often fail at this. I'm imperfect.
I enjoy a bit of light flaming, if it's done in the spirit of fun. If I find out that it's actually hurting someone for real, I desist. That's never my aim.
I'm most certainly not as bad in real life as some folks on the forums believe me to be.
I'm definitely not shy or reserved, though. Not here and not in real life.
			
			
			
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I want to enjoy myself, I want to learn, I want to see the world through the eyes of others.
I try to not hurt other people. Not intentionally, anyway. And I always keep in mind there's a person behind the handle. Like Leo, I'm not a big fan of those who have genuine emotional mischief on their mind even as they hide behind an anonymous handle.
Even though I might check my Facebook or Twitter accounts two or three times a year, I tend to stay away from social media. I don't read the comments sections of news sites; these are a troll's paradise.
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I try to remain true to my own principles without feeling the need to whack other people over the head with them.
I try to receive other people's views and opinions in the most sympathetic light possible. I often fail at this. I'm imperfect.
I enjoy a bit of light flaming, if it's done in the spirit of fun. If I find out that it's actually hurting someone for real, I desist. That's never my aim.
I'm most certainly not as bad in real life as some folks on the forums believe me to be.
I'm definitely not shy or reserved, though. Not here and not in real life.
That's how I feel too Blurt.
			 
			
			
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That's shocking.
 :swoon:
			 
			
			
				I've mellowed out a lot over this past year. Both online and in real life
I'm meaner when I'm bitter and miserable
			
			
			
				Quote from: "Erica Mena"
I'm meaner when I'm bitter and miserable
We all have our days Erica.
			 
			
			
				Or our decades, in some cases.
			
			
			
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That is true. One just has to get out of the rut they are in.
			 
			
			
				Yep.
Ruts get deep, though, when you're spinning your wheels but not moving.
			
			
			
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Ruts get deep, though, when you're spinning your wheels but not moving.
They do. The only way is to stop spinning the wheels and making the rut deeper.
			 
			
			
				Of course the posts get increasingly hostile in the internet..
You dont have an outlet..
Normally, you punch the guy... And that makes you feel good..
You dont get that in the net.
			
			
			
				The only difference between a rut and the grave is the depth of the hole.