As more and more cities and states go into shelter-in-place, stay-at-home, and lockdown orders, one unintended side effect is a rise in domestic abuse, where women and children are literally not allowed to leave their abuser.
Avoiding public spaces and working remotely can help to reduce the spread of COVID-19, but for many survivors, staying home may not be the safest option. We know that any external factors that add stress and financial strain can negatively impact survivors and create circumstances where their safety is further compromised.
Abusive partners may withhold necessary items, such as hand sanitizer or disinfectants.
Abusive partners may share misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors, or to prevent them from seeking appropriate medical attention if they have symptoms.
Abusive partners may withhold insurance cards, threaten to cancel insurance, or prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.
Programs that serve survivors may be significantly impacted –- shelters may be full or may even stop intakes altogether. Survivors may also fear entering shelter because of being in close quarters with groups of people.
Survivors who are older or have chronic heart or lung conditions may be at increased risk in public places where they would typically get support, like shelters, counseling centers, or courthouses.
Travel restrictions may impact a survivor's escape or safety plan – it may not be safe for them to use public transportation or to fly.
An abusive partner may feel more justified and escalate their isolation tactics.
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As more and more cities and states go into shelter-in-place, stay-at-home, and lockdown orders, one unintended side effect is a rise in domestic abuse, where women and children are literally not allowed to leave their abuser.
Avoiding public spaces and working remotely can help to reduce the spread of COVID-19, but for many survivors, staying home may not be the safest option. We know that any external factors that add stress and financial strain can negatively impact survivors and create circumstances where their safety is further compromised.
Abusive partners may withhold necessary items, such as hand sanitizer or disinfectants.
Abusive partners may share misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors, or to prevent them from seeking appropriate medical attention if they have symptoms.
Abusive partners may withhold insurance cards, threaten to cancel insurance, or prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.
Programs that serve survivors may be significantly impacted –- shelters may be full or may even stop intakes altogether. Survivors may also fear entering shelter because of being in close quarters with groups of people.
Survivors who are older or have chronic heart or lung conditions may be at increased risk in public places where they would typically get support, like shelters, counseling centers, or courthouses.
Travel restrictions may impact a survivor's escape or safety plan – it may not be safe for them to use public transportation or to fly.
An abusive partner may feel more justified and escalate their isolation tactics.
Staying home only makes abusers more abusive.
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As more and more cities and states go into shelter-in-place, stay-at-home, and lockdown orders, one unintended side effect is a rise in domestic abuse, where women and children are literally not allowed to leave their abuser.
Avoiding public spaces and working remotely can help to reduce the spread of COVID-19, but for many survivors, staying home may not be the safest option. We know that any external factors that add stress and financial strain can negatively impact survivors and create circumstances where their safety is further compromised.
Abusive partners may withhold necessary items, such as hand sanitizer or disinfectants.
Abusive partners may share misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors, or to prevent them from seeking appropriate medical attention if they have symptoms.
Abusive partners may withhold insurance cards, threaten to cancel insurance, or prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.
Programs that serve survivors may be significantly impacted –- shelters may be full or may even stop intakes altogether. Survivors may also fear entering shelter because of being in close quarters with groups of people.
Survivors who are older or have chronic heart or lung conditions may be at increased risk in public places where they would typically get support, like shelters, counseling centers, or courthouses.
Travel restrictions may impact a survivor's escape or safety plan – it may not be safe for them to use public transportation or to fly.
An abusive partner may feel more justified and escalate their isolation tactics.
Terrible.
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True, it does from 2 perspectives ... more agitated + GREATLY increased access time .
Confined together 24/7 - - The perfect storm for greatly increased abuse
I was once married to an abuser so know how it works .... I feared long weekends, holiday time ... the more time at home, the more abuse
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True, it does from 2 perspectives ... more agitated + GREATLY increased access time .
Confined together 24/7 - - The perfect storm for greatly increased abuse
I was once married to an abuser so know how it works .... I feared long weekends, holiday time ... the more time at home, the more abuse
Oh gosh, I hope this ends soon.
This pandemic makes every problem worse.
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So true.
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As more and more cities and states go into shelter-in-place, stay-at-home, and lockdown orders, one unintended side effect is a rise in domestic abuse, where women and children are literally not allowed to leave their abuser.
Avoiding public spaces and working remotely can help to reduce the spread of COVID-19, but for many survivors, staying home may not be the safest option. We know that any external factors that add stress and financial strain can negatively impact survivors and create circumstances where their safety is further compromised.
Abusive partners may withhold necessary items, such as hand sanitizer or disinfectants.
Abusive partners may share misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors, or to prevent them from seeking appropriate medical attention if they have symptoms.
Abusive partners may withhold insurance cards, threaten to cancel insurance, or prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.
Programs that serve survivors may be significantly impacted –- shelters may be full or may even stop intakes altogether. Survivors may also fear entering shelter because of being in close quarters with groups of people.
Survivors who are older or have chronic heart or lung conditions may be at increased risk in public places where they would typically get support, like shelters, counseling centers, or courthouses.
Travel restrictions may impact a survivor's escape or safety plan – it may not be safe for them to use public transportation or to fly.
An abusive partner may feel more justified and escalate their isolation tactics.
That seems right, unfortunately.
A cop in Texas has been tested positive for COVID-19 so now the police in Texas said they will no longer be responding to calls. Great. Crime will go up.
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As more and more cities and states go into shelter-in-place, stay-at-home, and lockdown orders, one unintended side effect is a rise in domestic abuse, where women and children are literally not allowed to leave their abuser.
Avoiding public spaces and working remotely can help to reduce the spread of COVID-19, but for many survivors, staying home may not be the safest option. We know that any external factors that add stress and financial strain can negatively impact survivors and create circumstances where their safety is further compromised.
Abusive partners may withhold necessary items, such as hand sanitizer or disinfectants.
Abusive partners may share misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors, or to prevent them from seeking appropriate medical attention if they have symptoms.
Abusive partners may withhold insurance cards, threaten to cancel insurance, or prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.
Programs that serve survivors may be significantly impacted –- shelters may be full or may even stop intakes altogether. Survivors may also fear entering shelter because of being in close quarters with groups of people.
Survivors who are older or have chronic heart or lung conditions may be at increased risk in public places where they would typically get support, like shelters, counseling centers, or courthouses.
Travel restrictions may impact a survivor's escape or safety plan – it may not be safe for them to use public transportation or to fly.
An abusive partner may feel more justified and escalate their isolation tactics.
This is what really worries me. The domestic abuse will EXPLODE.
Expect murder suicides as men kill their families then themselves.
What is the solution?
How can we prevent men going loco?
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My brother still enforces the law.
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As more and more cities and states go into shelter-in-place, stay-at-home, and lockdown orders, one unintended side effect is a rise in domestic abuse, where women and children are literally not allowed to leave their abuser.
Avoiding public spaces and working remotely can help to reduce the spread of COVID-19, but for many survivors, staying home may not be the safest option. We know that any external factors that add stress and financial strain can negatively impact survivors and create circumstances where their safety is further compromised.
Abusive partners may withhold necessary items, such as hand sanitizer or disinfectants.
Abusive partners may share misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors, or to prevent them from seeking appropriate medical attention if they have symptoms.
Abusive partners may withhold insurance cards, threaten to cancel insurance, or prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.
Programs that serve survivors may be significantly impacted –- shelters may be full or may even stop intakes altogether. Survivors may also fear entering shelter because of being in close quarters with groups of people.
Survivors who are older or have chronic heart or lung conditions may be at increased risk in public places where they would typically get support, like shelters, counseling centers, or courthouses.
Travel restrictions may impact a survivor's escape or safety plan – it may not be safe for them to use public transportation or to fly.
An abusive partner may feel more justified and escalate their isolation tactics.
Men get abused too...
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As more and more cities and states go into shelter-in-place, stay-at-home, and lockdown orders, one unintended side effect is a rise in domestic abuse, where women and children are literally not allowed to leave their abuser.
Avoiding public spaces and working remotely can help to reduce the spread of COVID-19, but for many survivors, staying home may not be the safest option. We know that any external factors that add stress and financial strain can negatively impact survivors and create circumstances where their safety is further compromised.
Abusive partners may withhold necessary items, such as hand sanitizer or disinfectants.
Abusive partners may share misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors, or to prevent them from seeking appropriate medical attention if they have symptoms.
Abusive partners may withhold insurance cards, threaten to cancel insurance, or prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.
Programs that serve survivors may be significantly impacted –- shelters may be full or may even stop intakes altogether. Survivors may also fear entering shelter because of being in close quarters with groups of people.
Survivors who are older or have chronic heart or lung conditions may be at increased risk in public places where they would typically get support, like shelters, counseling centers, or courthouses.
Travel restrictions may impact a survivor's escape or safety plan – it may not be safe for them to use public transportation or to fly.
An abusive partner may feel more justified and escalate their isolation tactics.
Men get abused too...
This is actually true... Homosexual men get beaten up by their partners regularly. Domestic abuse in the homosexual community is volatile.
Not just with homos... there's a reason relationships work long term... because the guy and the girl either separate so he can go to work, or they both do... there are a lot of bullied and shell shocked blokes out there...
...if they don't neck themselves, they turn up to places like the Men's Sheds...
Well I looked it up recently about the ratio of murder/suicide cases...
80 perpetrators were men
3 were women so while it is true that men can be victims, the majority of victims are women, children and probably pets. (that never gets mentioned)
So we know there is a problem, where are the creative ideas to deal with it?
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80 perpetrators were men
3 were women so while it is true that men can be victims, the majority of victims are women, children and probably pets. (that never gets mentioned)
So we know there is a problem, where are the creative ideas to deal with it?
Most men would never strike a woman...even if the woman is striking him...if guys stick around, because of children, finances, both... they're no different than codependent women.... except they're ashamed and don't seek help because men aren't supposed to be abused and nobody believes them anyway...
I have no creative ways to deal with the abuse of either gender.... but I know it will get worse for both as lockdowns progress...
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80 perpetrators were men
3 were women so while it is true that men can be victims, the majority of victims are women, children and probably pets. (that never gets mentioned)
So we know there is a problem, where are the creative ideas to deal with it?
Most men would never strike a woman...even if the woman is striking him...if guys stick around, because of children, finances, both... they're no different than codependent women.... except they're ashamed and don't seek help because men aren't supposed to be abused and nobody believes them anyway...
I have no creative ways to deal with the abuse of either gender.... but I know it will get worse for both as lockdowns progress...
I only saw one short segment on how one family were entertaining their children and you'd already done this years before. The family set up a tent for their kids to camp in the loungeroom.
I guess that might work for two days, but this is going to go one for months.
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80 perpetrators were men
3 were women so while it is true that men can be victims, the majority of victims are women, children and probably pets. (that never gets mentioned)
So we know there is a problem, where are the creative ideas to deal with it?
Most men would never strike a woman...even if the woman is striking him...if guys stick around, because of children, finances, both... they're no different than codependent women.... except they're ashamed and don't seek help because men aren't supposed to be abused and nobody believes them anyway...
I have no creative ways to deal with the abuse of either gender.... but I know it will get worse for both as lockdowns progress...
I only saw one short segment on how one family were entertaining their children and you'd already done this years before. The family set up a tent for their kids to camp in the loungeroom.
I guess that might work for two days, but this is going to go one for months.
I'm teaching her to make food... preserve food... bake bread... and we watch a movie or two a day, or episode(I made her watch Three Musketeers and Hart of Dixie and she's oddly hooked)... she draws for me but I have to remind her to conserve paper in her drawing binder (have more but she doesn't know it yet)... let her have monkey hour every day... 60 minutes, timed, where she can run around and leap off of anything she wants... and I play with her (letting her put her slime toy compounds on my hands and press mini plastic beads into them then chasing her around)...
...we're doing okay... she wants to see her friends but she's distracted...
My son LOVED movies with Shelly Long, Bette Midler, and many of those GREAT 80s comedies out of the USA before the world went total nuclear insane. John Candy movies were good too.
See if you can get her a flute... and learn to play it or a harmonica...
Let her phone her friends.
Teaching her to cook is a great idea.
Learn how to make "Mock Fish"...
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See if you can get her a flute... and learn to play it or a harmonica...
Let her phone her friends.
Teaching her to cook is a great idea.
Learn how to make "Mock Fish"...
It's 2020, Caskur... we'll be ok...
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...if they don't neck themselves, they turn up to places like the Men's Sheds...
ac_wot
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...if they don't neck themselves, they turn up to places like the Men's Sheds...
ac_wot
Safe spaces for lads, Fash...
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men's_shed
Yes, there are men abused by women .. many just try to self protect and for some reason stay
And often the dominant gay also .. male or female
Still, by a wide margin, the male is the abuser of woman and of kids .. which is usually worse than the other way around, because in most cases male is stronger physically
Sometimes Dinky needs to supply a translation, lol
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My brother still enforces the law.
Very good. He is in Toronto, right?
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My brother still enforces the law.
Very good. He is in Toronto, right?
He's in rural Manitoba.
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My brother still enforces the law.
Very good. He is in Toronto, right?
He's in rural Manitoba.
Got it. My youngest wants to be an enforcer of the law. I am not for it.
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My brother still enforces the law.
Very good. He is in Toronto, right?
He's in rural Manitoba.
Got it. My youngest wants to be an enforcer of the law. I am not for it.
My brother loves his career in law enforcement..
But, I can understand your concern as a mother.
Ya. As parents we are protective. It's good when the child is young, and hard to give it up.
We usually don't think about the fact that we live in a world of risk where lives that appear to be lived safe can be snuffed in a split second no matter how safe they play it .. some jobs can have more risk .. still, we must force ourselves to drop that at a certain point and let them follow their dreams
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My brother still enforces the law.
Very good. He is in Toronto, right?
He's in rural Manitoba.
Got it. My youngest wants to be an enforcer of the law. I am not for it.
My brother loves his career in law enforcement..
But, I can understand your concern as a mother.
It's not a career that ever interested me. It's a calling that few people are cut out for.
I guess I look at life as we are all different .. different interests, different skills .. different desires .. different aspirations
Each their own unique person
I strongly believe that personal preferences and characteristics of each individual, so long as they are not unethical, should be respected, understood as best we can ... and respected
Dealing with how a person "ticks" is our problem if we make it one
I let my children decide what they want to do even if I may not be for it as long as I see that they are truly happy to do what they choose to do. I do not want them to follow my example. I did what my elders insisted that I pursue so I wasted my time in an area I had no interest in. That is the old backwards way. I never want them to do the same thing.
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We are paying for our daughter's university education, so we had a say in what program she studied.
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We are paying for our daughter's university education, so we had a say in what program she studied.
I do not agree. I think each student going to school should pursue what they want to do, after all, they will be the ones who will suffer if it turns out not to be their passion or desire. Anyway, what others do is not my business.
I underscore the fact that it is very important to be happy at your job. I hear so many people bitch about their jobs. I cannot stand it. That is too bad. Just do it. If you don't like it, find something else.
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We are paying for our daughter's university education, so we had a say in what program she studied.
I do not agree. I think each student going to school should pursue what they want to do, after all, they will be the ones who will suffer if it turns out not to be their passion or desire. Anyway, what others do is not my business.
Than they should not expect their parents to pay for it. Transgender studies for example.
As the nation gets more stringent about non-essential travel and bans on group gatherings to slow the spread of coronavirus, one expert says the pandemic may result in an unintended rise in drug and alcohol relapses among those who are in recovery.
"Yes, we are already starting to see an increase in relapses," Dayry Hulkow, M.S., a primary therapist at Arete Recovery, a Delphi Behavioral Health Group facility, told Fox News.
Mental health professionals have recently been speaking out about different ways to cope with isolation and anxiety regarding COVID-19, which can also act as triggers for those in recovery, especially when coupled with canceled Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meetings.
"Social support and active involvement in the program both play a huge role in recovery," Hulkow said. "In the absence of these, 'isolation' and 'emotional distress' can be significant 'triggers' to relapse. Feelings of depression, anxiety, fear, uncertainty, loneliness and boredom can easily escalate particularly during this time."
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