Should a couple go halves on mortgage/rent and bills or is it only right that the man pay for everything?
I feel it's only right since he's the "man" of the house.
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488376 time=1671566356 user_id=2845
Should a couple go halves on mortgage/rent and bills or is it only right that the man pay for everything?
I feel it's only right since he's the "man" of the house.
Every relationship I was in before the old lady, I was the breadwinner. My old lady has a masters degree, and earns a professional salary. She insists on paying half for everything. It took a while for me to get used to this kind of fifty-fifty relationship, but I am okay with it now.
I pay for all the "extras". Extras as in anything for the kids, grandkids, household. We split grocery bill
I do it by how much money we earn.I earn a bit more than the old women,so let's say for example the monthly bills come to £1200.
I pay £800 and she would pay £400.
Doing it this way leaves us both with about the same spare cash to spend as each other (we don't combine wages).We then both have the same amount of money to do with as we wish.
Well, I paid for everything with my first Wife. She eventually got a job that she could work while the Son was in school. That money went towards her lifestyle stuff, such as cigarettes, gas for her car, and any extras.
I've lived on my own since she passed.
To me, the Man should pay for everything, he is the provider. BUT, if bills are not able to be paid from those wages, the Woman should be able to help, so long as the household is not affected. By that, I mean that she should be able to be there for the kids, and also be there in the evening when the Man is home, instead of out working a night job. Even then, the Man should work harder and more hours than the Woman. By this standard though, she cant be lazy either, and should at least try and keep the house somewhat clean too lolol. The Man can help, with trash and stuff, but shouldnt have to bust his ass after already busting his ass all day.
I've never got to experience "coming home to a meal" either lol. I've always been the damn cook hahaha.
Quote from: Blazor post_id=488384 time=1671567506 user_id=2221
Well, I paid for everything with my first Wife. She eventually got a job that she could work while the Son was in school. That money went towards her lifestyle stuff, such as cigarettes, gas for her car, and any extras.
I've lived on my own since she passed.
To me, the Man should pay for everything, he is the provider. BUT, if bills are not able to be paid from those wages, the Woman should be able to help, so long as the household is not affected. By that, I mean that she should be able to be there for the kids, and also be there in the evening when the Man is home, instead of out working a night job. Even then, the Man should work harder and more hours than the Woman. By this standard though, she cant be lazy either, and should at least try and keep the house somewhat clean too lolol. The Man can help, with trash and stuff, but shouldnt have to bust his ass after already busting his ass all day.
I've never got to experience "coming home to a meal" either lol. I've always been the damn cook hahaha.
Exactly!!
If she's a stay at home mom/wife then yes, the husband should pay for everything.
If she's working then her contributions to the finances should be commensurate with her income.
Of course Im considered Old Fashioned these days lol.
I miss the days of Traditional Women....... the ones without penises :laugh:
Quote from: "Biggie Smiles" post_id=488386 time=1671567680 user_id=3214
If she's a stay at home mom/wife then yes, the husband should pay for everything.
If she's working then her contributions to the finances should be commensurate with her income.
That is the way it has been with me. I made good coin in my working career and all of the gals I was with before the old lady did not. So, I paid for everything.
We both make good money. He still should pay the bills tho :laugh:
Quote from: "Biggie Smiles" post_id=488386 time=1671567680 user_id=3214
If she's a stay at home mom/wife then yes, the husband should pay for everything.
If she's working then her contributions to the finances should be commensurate with her income.
Yep,that's pretty much what me and the old women do.
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488392 time=1671568323 user_id=2845
We both make good money. He still should pay the bills tho :laugh:
That is what I thought would happen with my old lady when we first started living together. But, like most highly educated Oriental gals these days, she values her independence. She thinks she loses that if she lives off a man.
It aint no big deal. We have no kids together. I have a grown son, but she aint the mom.
That would t fly in my house. As a matter of principle she'd be paying something
Quote from: "Biggie Smiles" post_id=488397 time=1671568685 user_id=3214
That would t fly in my house. As a matter of principle she'd be paying something
You are a more modern guy than I am. It is the way I have always done it since I first lived with a gal when I was nineteen and working as a roughneck on the rigs. The relationship I am in now seemed weird to me at first.
Quote from: "Biggie Smiles" post_id=488397 time=1671568685 user_id=3214
That would t fly in my house. As a matter of principle she'd be paying something
Paying wit' dat ass!!! :laugh:
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Quote from: "Biggie Smiles" post_id=488397 time=1671568685 user_id=3214
That would t fly in my house. As a matter of principle she'd be paying something
Paying wit' dat ass!!! :laugh:
I feel like I am getting paid twice with my current old lady.
Quote from: "Biggie Smiles" post_id=488397 time=1671568685 user_id=3214
That would t fly in my house. As a matter of principle she'd be paying something
I do tho! I pay for all the household stuff and kids clothes, needs extras etc. I pay the Wi-Fi bill too :laugh:
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Quote from: "Biggie Smiles" post_id=488397 time=1671568685 user_id=3214
That would t fly in my house. As a matter of principle she'd be paying something
I do tho! I pay for all the household stuff and kids clothes, needs extras etc. I pay the Wi-Fi bill too :laugh:
Then that's fair.
I just wouldn't tolerate a wife / GF telling me I had to fend for myself with teh household duties while I was paying ALL the bills meanwhile she's out earning coin and doing with it what she pleases. Oh hell fucking no.
I was the same with my kid's mom. when they were babies she was a stay at home mom. I worked full time and paid all the bills. Monday through Thursday I don't want to hear jack shit about getting out of bed to feed the babies. Ain't fucking happening. Not when I have to be at work at 8:30am that morning it isn't.
Weekends, fine. Weekdays? absofuckinglootely not.
Oh no no no. I take care of the kids full time. He goes and does his church stuff.
You know my situation, my hands are full 24/7 PLUS I'm working. I feel deserve to keep my money lol
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488409 time=1671569636 user_id=2845
Oh no no no. I take care of the kids full time. He goes and does his church stuff.
You know my situation, my hands are full 24/7 PLUS I'm working. I feel deserve to keep my money lol
In that case then yes.
I'm all about fairness. Gender matters not.
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Quote from: Blazor post_id=488404 time=1671569023 user_id=2221
Paying wit' dat ass!!! :laugh:
I feel like I am getting paid twice with my current old lady.
:laugh:
ac_drinks
Quote from: Blazor post_id=488412 time=1671570078 user_id=2221
Quote from: Herman post_id=488405 time=1671569114 user_id=3396
I feel like I am getting paid twice with my current old lady.
:laugh:
ac_drinks
She ticked all the boxes. And paying half the bills was not an important one to me anyway.
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488376 time=1671566356 user_id=2845
Should a couple go halves on mortgage/rent and bills or is it only right that the man pay for everything?
I feel it's only right since he's the "man" of the house.
My wife and I pool everything together. I generally pay for restaurants and drinks etc, although again...it's really our money.
As far as mortgages go— damn straight down the middle. If the couple were to split...so would the combined assets. Besides it generally favours the female anyway. Probably 60/40.
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488376 time=1671566356 user_id=2845
Should a couple go halves on mortgage/rent and bills or is it only right that the man pay for everything?
I feel it's only right since he's the "man" of the house.
Any income goes into our joint bank account and is used. I dont work right now but when I did....it just went into our bank account.
We didnt divide it "my money your money". You have to exist as 1 unit.
Quote from: Blazor post_id=488384 time=1671567506 user_id=2221
Well, I paid for everything with my first Wife. She eventually got a job that she could work while the Son was in school. That money went towards her lifestyle stuff, such as cigarettes, gas for her car, and any extras.
I've lived on my own since she passed.
To me, the Man should pay for everything, he is the provider. BUT, if bills are not able to be paid from those wages, the Woman should be able to help, so long as the household is not affected. By that, I mean that she should be able to be there for the kids, and also be there in the evening when the Man is home, instead of out working a night job. Even then, the Man should work harder and more hours than the Woman. By this standard though, she cant be lazy either, and should at least try and keep the house somewhat clean too lolol. The Man can help, with trash and stuff, but shouldnt have to bust his ass after already busting his ass all day.
I've never got to experience "coming home to a meal" either lol. I've always been the damn cook hahaha.
My husband makes all the money. I call it mine and spend it. Bahahahaha.
In reality, I'm better at paying bills and budgeting. He works and makes the money and I do bills and all that. So he asks me what's available if he is gonna spend.
To be clear.....he isnt asking my permission. He asks me where we are with money and if we can afford whatever he wants to spend. Anything over 100 right now we consult eachother.
If he didnt make enough, he would go make more.
But he has dinner, clean house, happy and calm wife when he comes home. Homeschooled girls who are thriving. So he does literally anything and everything I ask him to do. Like, taking out the trash on trash night. That's the one fucking chore I dont want to do. He may as well be Persius with the head of Medusa for how I feel over him taking out the garbage lol.
I actually only cook meals on nights my husband comes home. He only comes home a few nights a week. He is only home on weekends if he doesnt work....he stays out close to the hospital he works in to save on gas right now. Plus it's a two and half hour drive. On nights he isnt coming home....we still have dinner, but it's usually small and easy.
You could still get a younger wife and have more babies. And you should. We need to raise up the new resistence.
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Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488406 time=1671569132 user_id=2845
I do tho! I pay for all the household stuff and kids clothes, needs extras etc. I pay the Wi-Fi bill too :laugh:
Then that's fair.
I just wouldn't tolerate a wife / GF telling me I had to fend for myself with teh household duties while I was paying ALL the bills meanwhile she's out earning coin and doing with it what she pleases. Oh hell fucking no.
I was the same with my kid's mom. when they were babies she was a stay at home mom. I worked full time and paid all the bills. Monday through Thursday I don't want to hear jack shit about getting out of bed to feed the babies. Ain't fucking happening. Not when I have to be at work at 8:30am that morning it isn't.
Weekends, fine. Weekdays? absofuckinglootely not.
Are you saying that you wouldnt have allowed me the pleasure of a 12 seater from PB for 100k?
Shucks.
In Finland, women bring in all the money and pay all the bills.
Us guys just chill in the hammock and look pretty.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=488450 time=1671586420 user_id=136
In Finland, women bring in all the money and pay all the bills.
Us guys just chill in the hammock and look pretty.
Yeah?
Do you get bent over that hammock too?
Had a joint account immediately after getting married. Both incomes pay the bills and both enjoy the extra's. Fishing is our thing. We bought boats and maintained a 2 bedroom weekend home in Galveston, and raised our son (my stepson). It's worked well for 38 years. Still have boats and property and love to fish.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=488450 time=1671586420 user_id=136
In Finland, women bring in all the money and pay all the bills.
Us guys just chill in the hammock and look pretty.
If the women are out bringing in the money...just who are you looking pretty for?
Wait, do you hang both ends of the hammock from the same hook??? wait, never mind, I don't want to know... :swoon:
:laugh3: :laugh3:
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488376 time=1671566356 user_id=2845
Should a couple go halves on mortgage/rent and bills or is it only right that the man pay for everything?
I feel it's only right since he's the "man" of the house.
Houses should ALWAYS be in both married people's names.
As for the other stuff... up to both parties I guess.
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Quote from: Blazor post_id=488384 time=1671567506 user_id=2221
Well, I paid for everything with my first Wife. She eventually got a job that she could work while the Son was in school. That money went towards her lifestyle stuff, such as cigarettes, gas for her car, and any extras.
I've lived on my own since she passed.
To me, the Man should pay for everything, he is the provider. BUT, if bills are not able to be paid from those wages, the Woman should be able to help, so long as the household is not affected. By that, I mean that she should be able to be there for the kids, and also be there in the evening when the Man is home, instead of out working a night job. Even then, the Man should work harder and more hours than the Woman. By this standard though, she cant be lazy either, and should at least try and keep the house somewhat clean too lolol. The Man can help, with trash and stuff, but shouldnt have to bust his ass after already busting his ass all day.
I've never got to experience "coming home to a meal" either lol. I've always been the damn cook hahaha.
My husband makes all the money. I call it mine and spend it. Bahahahaha.
In reality, I'm better at paying bills and budgeting. He works and makes the money and I do bills and all that. So he asks me what's available if he is gonna spend.
To be clear.....he isnt asking my permission. He asks me where we are with money and if we can afford whatever he wants to spend. Anything over 100 right now we consult eachother.
If he didnt make enough, he would go make more.
But he has dinner, clean house, happy and calm wife when he comes home. Homeschooled girls who are thriving. So he does literally anything and everything I ask him to do. Like, taking out the trash on trash night. That's the one fucking chore I dont want to do. He may as well be Persius with the head of Medusa for how I feel over him taking out the garbage lol.
I actually only cook meals on nights my husband comes home. He only comes home a few nights a week. He is only home on weekends if he doesnt work....he stays out close to the hospital he works in to save on gas right now. Plus it's a two and half hour drive. On nights he isnt coming home....we still have dinner, but it's usually small and easy.
You could still get a younger wife and have more babies. And you should. We need to raise up the new resistence.
You got a good Man Dovey. Y'all doing great. Lol @ Medusa head :laugh:
Hahahahaha, I use to think I was done having babies. But lately, that is EXACTLY what I been thinking, need to raise some Libertarians!!! lol.
Fun fact: my great, great, great, grandad, met a young Lady when he was 55.... he didnt start having kids til then!!! Then he had about 8 kids until he was 75!!! One of them kids, my Great, Great Grandad, was the one that fought in the Civil War.
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Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488376 time=1671566356 user_id=2845
Should a couple go halves on mortgage/rent and bills or is it only right that the man pay for everything?
I feel it's only right since he's the "man" of the house.
Houses should ALWAYS be in both married people's names.
As for the other stuff... up to both parties I guess.
Everything is in both our names. He just foots the bill while I stack :laugh:
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Quote from: Dove post_id=488447 time=1671585807 user_id=3266
My husband makes all the money. I call it mine and spend it. Bahahahaha.
In reality, I'm better at paying bills and budgeting. He works and makes the money and I do bills and all that. So he asks me what's available if he is gonna spend.
To be clear.....he isnt asking my permission. He asks me where we are with money and if we can afford whatever he wants to spend. Anything over 100 right now we consult eachother.
If he didnt make enough, he would go make more.
But he has dinner, clean house, happy and calm wife when he comes home. Homeschooled girls who are thriving. So he does literally anything and everything I ask him to do. Like, taking out the trash on trash night. That's the one fucking chore I dont want to do. He may as well be Persius with the head of Medusa for how I feel over him taking out the garbage lol.
I actually only cook meals on nights my husband comes home. He only comes home a few nights a week. He is only home on weekends if he doesnt work....he stays out close to the hospital he works in to save on gas right now. Plus it's a two and half hour drive. On nights he isnt coming home....we still have dinner, but it's usually small and easy.
You could still get a younger wife and have more babies. And you should. We need to raise up the new resistence.
You got a good Man Dovey. Y'all doing great. Lol @ Medusa head :laugh:
Hahahahaha, I use to think I was done having babies. But lately, that is EXACTLY what I been thinking, need to raise some Libertarians!!! lol.
Fun fact: my great, great, great, grandad, met a young Lady when he was 55.... he didnt start having kids til then!!! Then he had about 8 kids until he was 75!!! One of them kids, my Great, Great Grandad, was the one that fought in the Civil War.
Thank you, I really do. His level of commitment and devotion to me and the girls is unmatched.
And a benefit of being male is your reproductive burden is much lower and you never succumb that ability with age. You could find a young wife and have babies for years.
Me? I'm 42. I'm done. "Expired" as Freud would say lol. I could still get pregnant I'm sure.....but just because I could doesnt mean I should. It would be a high risk pregnancy at my age.
The first time I decided I was done....my husband and I had been discussing it. He adopted my 17 year old, but had no biological children. We were in our mid 30s and ultimately decided "no". He scheduled his vasectomy and the next day I took a positive pregnancy test :oeudC:
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You got a good Man Dovey. Y'all doing great. Lol @ Medusa head :laugh:
Hahahahaha, I use to think I was done having babies. But lately, that is EXACTLY what I been thinking, need to raise some Libertarians!!! lol.
Fun fact: my great, great, great, grandad, met a young Lady when he was 55.... he didnt start having kids til then!!! Then he had about 8 kids until he was 75!!! One of them kids, my Great, Great Grandad, was the one that fought in the Civil War.
Thank you, I really do. His level of commitment and devotion to me and the girls is unmatched.
And a benefit of being male is your reproductive burden is much lower and you never succumb that ability with age. You could find a young wife and have babies for years.
Me? I'm 42. I'm done. "Expired" as Freud would say lol. I could still get pregnant I'm sure.....but just because I could doesnt mean I should. It would be a high risk pregnancy at my age.
The first time I decided I was done....my husband and I had been discussing it. He adopted my 17 year old, but had no biological children. We were in our mid 30s and ultimately decided "no". He scheduled his vasectomy and the next day I took a positive pregnancy test :oeudC:
Oh man thats crazy on the vasectomy/pregnancy!!! Means it was meant to be lol.
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Quote from: Dove post_id=488568 time=1671654239 user_id=3266
Thank you, I really do. His level of commitment and devotion to me and the girls is unmatched.
And a benefit of being male is your reproductive burden is much lower and you never succumb that ability with age. You could find a young wife and have babies for years.
Me? I'm 42. I'm done. "Expired" as Freud would say lol. I could still get pregnant I'm sure.....but just because I could doesnt mean I should. It would be a high risk pregnancy at my age.
The first time I decided I was done....my husband and I had been discussing it. He adopted my 17 year old, but had no biological children. We were in our mid 30s and ultimately decided "no". He scheduled his vasectomy and the next day I took a positive pregnancy test :oeudC:
Oh man thats crazy on the vasectomy/pregnancy!!! Means it was meant to be lol.
Yep. Shes 6 now ac_wub
And he definately got the vasectomy lol
Cultural differences.
The woman pays half the bills.
Alternatively, if she is a full-time housemom, then I can pay all the bills.
Full-time means that the kids arent going to kindergarten.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=488629 time=1671674740 user_id=136
Cultural differences.
The woman pays half the bills.
Alternatively, if she is a full-time housemom, then I can pay all the bills.
Full-time means that the kids arent going to kindergarten.
A good housewife can turn every 1 dollar the husband makes into $2 or more.
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Quote from: Odinson post_id=488629 time=1671674740 user_id=136
Cultural differences.
The woman pays half the bills.
Alternatively, if she is a full-time housemom, then I can pay all the bills.
Full-time means that the kids arent going to kindergarten.
A good housewife can turn every 1 dollar the husband makes into $2 or more.
That might have been the case centuries ago but now its kinda hard to find a woman whos credit hasnt been obliterated.
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Quote from: caskur post_id=488955 time=1671986453 user_id=2156
A good housewife can turn every 1 dollar the husband makes into $2 or more.
That might have been the case centuries ago but now its kinda hard to find a woman whos credit hasnt been obliterated.
Well my husband is rich because he married a very astute wife... :wink:
My Wife was glad I managed the money I made. She wouldnt of been able to lol. For one, Math is something she wasnt good at. For two, she blew all hers lol. People might say Im so tight that I squeak when I walk, but my bills are paid, and I can afford a beer lol.
When I think about it, most Women I know, aint very good with money lol. I say "most", Im sure some are good lol. My Great Grandma was good with it, but after that, nope. Grandma wasnt, Mom wasnt, Sister wasnt, Wife wasnt, and I know my friend's Wife aint, nor his daughter. My Dad's wife aint. Those jus' off the top of my head lol.
Well, I don't know how much more I can take. I will never be some submissive Christian wife. I shouldn't have to change who I am.
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=489036 time=1672069301 user_id=2845
Well, I don't know how much more I can take. I will never be some submissive Christian wife. I shouldn't have to change who I am.
You must be a good girl, and get on your knees :2i760jm:
haha, I kid, I kid.
Fo' sho' you should never change who you are. I do know "compromise" is key to a relationship, til its too much compromise in favor of one or the other.
Sounds about right. When my brother and I were young, my dad only pumps money and hires a cleaning lady (until I had OCD and went nuts, my dad had to stop hiring the cleaning lady and vacuums the house himself), and then disappears for half a year and comes back for a month or 2 and disappears again for work. While my mom looks after me, buy grocceries, takes me to school and other learning courses, cooks, etc, and my 2 older brothers do the lawn mowing in the summer and shovels the snow during winter and just I tidy up the place and clean the fridge.
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Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=489036 time=1672069301 user_id=2845
Well, I don't know how much more I can take. I will never be some submissive Christian wife. I shouldn't have to change who I am.
You must be a good girl, and get on your knees :2i760jm:
haha, I kid, I kid.
Fo' sho' you should never change who you are. I do know "compromise" is key to a relationship, til its too much compromise in favor of one or the other.
Like I said, I will never be that demure preachers wife. Not gonna happen.
Quote from: Blazor post_id=489022 time=1672064852 user_id=2221
My Wife was glad I managed the money I made. She wouldnt of been able to lol. For one, Math is something she wasnt good at. For two, she blew all hers lol. People might say Im so tight that I squeak when I walk, but my bills are paid, and I can afford a beer lol.
When I think about it, most Women I know, aint very good with money lol. I say "most", Im sure some are good lol. My Great Grandma was good with it, but after that, nope. Grandma wasnt, Mom wasnt, Sister wasnt, Wife wasnt, and I know my friend's Wife aint, nor his daughter. My Dad's wife aint. Those jus' off the top of my head lol.
My old lady is good with money. She makes good coin and invests wisely.
When it's me being paid to manage or oversee money or resources, it's a job I'm good at.
When it's my money, it's a chore and feels tedious. I don't like it but I do it when necessary. If it's our money, I surrender and let the wife do what she will... unless it's a really really bad idea, then we get snarky with each other and she generally gets her way. Lulz
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You must be a good girl, and get on your knees :2i760jm:
haha, I kid, I kid.
Fo' sho' you should never change who you are. I do know "compromise" is key to a relationship, til its too much compromise in favor of one or the other.
Like I said, I will never be that demure preachers wife. Not gonna happen.
who ever came up with that subjection crap ... was an idiot!!!!
Dont have to be totally obedient but... Do know when to shut up, dear. ac_biggrin
Quote from: Blazor post_id=489022 time=1672064852 user_id=2221
My Wife was glad I managed the money I made. She wouldnt of been able to lol. For one, Math is something she wasnt good at. For two, she blew all hers lol. People might say Im so tight that I squeak when I walk, but my bills are paid, and I can afford a beer lol.
When I think about it, most Women I know, aint very good with money lol. I say "most", Im sure some are good lol. My Great Grandma was good with it, but after that, nope. Grandma wasnt, Mom wasnt, Sister wasnt, Wife wasnt, and I know my friend's Wife aint, nor his daughter. My Dad's wife aint. Those jus' off the top of my head lol.
My mother is a complete retard with money.
One night while I was asleep she went into my purse and got the bank card for her account (it's in my name because the doctor feels she needs a payee...so that's me) and wrote down the numbers.
Then she sits and orders shit all night. Blows her money and than relies on us for shit she needs.
I didnt even get the money for bills this month before she fucking blew it all. She ordered 8 heating blankets. A bunch of skin stuff she doesnt even use. She bought a mat for 60 dollars (10 for shipping....so 70 bucks) thinking she could put it on the couch and sleep on it. There is no way that would work and this dumb ass bought it.
And she smokes and spends like 60 bucks a week. Everytime we go to the store she wants a bunch of stuff
I get after her and she whines about being "bossed around" and having her money "controlled".
It's at the point where we are going to just let her go without and not cover her at all if she wont stop blowing through her money.
I'm gonna have to stay up until midnight on the 2nd so when her benefits hit I can hurry up and move her portion of the bills and groceries. Then if she blows it....shes gonna have to suffer. I feel like shes infantizing herself and taking advantage of us.
She claims sometimes she "always had her bills paid" and I have no clue where she gets that. I've watched her never hold a job and rely on family and then get married and stay home and do absolutely nothing for 20 years. She never handled their bills.....I handled her bills more than she has. Her ex actually blocked her from the bank account because she just spends money. And she called that "financial abuse". So no doubt shes gonna be accuse me of "financial abuse".
It will be 1am....and shes just thinking of shit and ordering it. She has gone to these sketchy sites and got her last account hacked. It's just so irresponsible it blows my mind.
I don't know how you do it, Dovey.
I always pay my bills on time because of the net-bank thing.
"unconfirmed bills".
I just check the box and hit enter.
There is an automatic option but I like confirming them.
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Quote from: Blazor post_id=489022 time=1672064852 user_id=2221
My Wife was glad I managed the money I made. She wouldnt of been able to lol. For one, Math is something she wasnt good at. For two, she blew all hers lol. People might say Im so tight that I squeak when I walk, but my bills are paid, and I can afford a beer lol.
When I think about it, most Women I know, aint very good with money lol. I say "most", Im sure some are good lol. My Great Grandma was good with it, but after that, nope. Grandma wasnt, Mom wasnt, Sister wasnt, Wife wasnt, and I know my friend's Wife aint, nor his daughter. My Dad's wife aint. Those jus' off the top of my head lol.
My mother is a complete retard with money.
One night while I was asleep she went into my purse and got the bank card for her account (it's in my name because the doctor feels she needs a payee...so that's me) and wrote down the numbers.
Then she sits and orders shit all night. Blows her money and than relies on us for shit she needs.
I didnt even get the money for bills this month before she fucking blew it all. She ordered 8 heating blankets. A bunch of skin stuff she doesnt even use. She bought a mat for 60 dollars (10 for shipping....so 70 bucks) thinking she could put it on the couch and sleep on it. There is no way that would work and this dumb ass bought it.
And she smokes and spends like 60 bucks a week. Everytime we go to the store she wants a bunch of stuff
I get after her and she whines about being "bossed around" and having her money "controlled".
It's at the point where we are going to just let her go without and not cover her at all if she wont stop blowing through her money.
I'm gonna have to stay up until midnight on the 2nd so when her benefits hit I can hurry up and move her portion of the bills and groceries. Then if she blows it....shes gonna have to suffer. I feel like shes infantizing herself and taking advantage of us.
She claims sometimes she "always had her bills paid" and I have no clue where she gets that. I've watched her never hold a job and rely on family and then get married and stay home and do absolutely nothing for 20 years. She never handled their bills.....I handled her bills more than she has. Her ex actually blocked her from the bank account because she just spends money. And she called that "financial abuse". So no doubt shes gonna be accuse me of "financial abuse".
It will be 1am....and shes just thinking of shit and ordering it. She has gone to these sketchy sites and got her last account hacked. It's just so irresponsible it blows my mind.
Do what ya gotta do. If she wants to smoke cigs n be able to LIVE with heat and food, she needs to quit that sneaky shit n let you do what you gotta do.
And when she gets mad, make her smoke some weed :laugh:
You want some edibles? My dude makes shit look like chocolate bars, she be out in no time after a case of the giggles and the munchies :laugh:
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=488376 time=1671566356 user_id=2845
Should a couple go halves on mortgage/rent and bills or is it only right that the man pay for everything?
I feel it's only right since he's the "man" of the house.
we have a joint accout and both earn about the same but have two seperate gift accounts
Quote from: "Erica Mena" post_id=489274 time=1672280489 user_id=2845
I don't know how you do it, Dovey.
I honestly dont know how I'm doing this either :oeudC:
One time while I was living on gulf coast, their electricity was shut off....they owed almost 800 hundred dollars.
So like a dumbass I called and paid it. And the reason it was shut off is because her and her dumb husband were drunks and they would buy beer before paying their bills....he would wait until they got shut off notices and than pay the lowest amount possible to keep it on...so that balance just kept rolling over. This month they claimed they didnt have anything to pay it with at all but you can bet they had beer.
I once did the math and he was spending 640 something a month on beer. They were hardly paying rent and the land lady ran a shop underneath the apartment and they reeeaalllyy took advantage of her. She should have evicted them MANY times. I think she felt bad for my mom and that's why she didnt. She loved me and my kids and that's probably another reason why. Whenever I stayed there I gave her my half of the rent every month. Their rent? You will die......525 a month. That's IT. And they STILL didnt pay it. 640 a month on beer and no rent money. :oeudC:
When I got into it with him I brought the beer bill up....and he fired back by telling me that he returned the bottles and used that money. Dude. He bought an 18 pack of Labatts for my mom and a 6 pack of Corona for himself. Every. Single. Night. Returning bottles does not cancel the cost of buying the shit like that.
I have so many wacky stories about those two....it could be a comic strip series.
They had cats and he wouldnt buy cat litter so he just left the boxes to mummify. And mom never did shit. Not even joking. I bought new cat boxes and litter when I moved back to Michigan and stayed with them. The cats were not even going in their boxes at all. I had to throw out 4 large rugs (they had hardwood flooring and rugs...the cats pissed all over the rugs so badly it was garbage). I'm doing this and my mother is just sitting at the table going "oh man...it was that bad?" Like WTF do you think?! Of course it's bad. Shes blaming HIM. Her reasons for never cleaning? Well he "cleans over" her anyway. :dash1:
These are (or were....he died last year of cardiac failure) two people who were able to skip through life drunk and immature without ever having to ever face any real consequences. And i....in my ignorance and my need for validation....enabled them both for a long time.
Even his death is because he was irresponsible. He had a widow make heart attack 11 years ago. Got taken for emergency surgery and had a stent placed. When he was released from the hospital he chucked his meds. Didnt follow up with a cardiologist. Went right back to drinking and managed to suck air for another decade....with that same stent in his heart....before he finally dropped dead on the kitchen floor in front of the guy he was renting a room from.
You cant go through something that serious and run around with a stent in there and just fuck off the doctor. It's a fucking miracle he even lived that long like that.
You have no idea how much trolling material I have picked up that is based on my actual family and real life events lol
When I introduced Big to my family (and you know I'm serious when i introduce people i like to my "parents")....my step father wanted to go to the pub with Big, shoot pool and have "guy time". And Big...bless his big heart...went. And put up with listening to my step father trash me the entire time. :oeudC:
Quote from: Blazor post_id=489286 time=1672281558 user_id=2221
Quote from: Dove post_id=489264 time=1672279308 user_id=3266
My mother is a complete retard with money.
One night while I was asleep she went into my purse and got the bank card for her account (it's in my name because the doctor feels she needs a payee...so that's me) and wrote down the numbers.
Then she sits and orders shit all night. Blows her money and than relies on us for shit she needs.
I didnt even get the money for bills this month before she fucking blew it all. She ordered 8 heating blankets. A bunch of skin stuff she doesnt even use. She bought a mat for 60 dollars (10 for shipping....so 70 bucks) thinking she could put it on the couch and sleep on it. There is no way that would work and this dumb ass bought it.
And she smokes and spends like 60 bucks a week. Everytime we go to the store she wants a bunch of stuff
I get after her and she whines about being "bossed around" and having her money "controlled".
It's at the point where we are going to just let her go without and not cover her at all if she wont stop blowing through her money.
I'm gonna have to stay up until midnight on the 2nd so when her benefits hit I can hurry up and move her portion of the bills and groceries. Then if she blows it....shes gonna have to suffer. I feel like shes infantizing herself and taking advantage of us.
She claims sometimes she "always had her bills paid" and I have no clue where she gets that. I've watched her never hold a job and rely on family and then get married and stay home and do absolutely nothing for 20 years. She never handled their bills.....I handled her bills more than she has. Her ex actually blocked her from the bank account because she just spends money. And she called that "financial abuse". So no doubt shes gonna be accuse me of "financial abuse".
It will be 1am....and shes just thinking of shit and ordering it. She has gone to these sketchy sites and got her last account hacked. It's just so irresponsible it blows my mind.
Do what ya gotta do. If she wants to smoke cigs n be able to LIVE with heat and food, she needs to quit that sneaky shit n let you do what you gotta do.
And when she gets mad, make her smoke some weed :laugh:
You want some edibles? My dude makes shit look like chocolate bars, she be out in no time after a case of the giggles and the munchies :laugh:
I WISH she liked weed. That would solve everything as far as I'm concerned.
a cocaine addiction would be more affordable than trying to satisfy the munchies in bidens economy.... :sad:
Quote from: deadskinmask post_id=489374 time=1672323982 user_id=1582
a cocaine addiction would be more affordable than trying to satisfy the munchies in bidens economy.... :sad:
Save money on groceries by using the crack diet lol.
Quote from: Dove post_id=489375 time=1672324273 user_id=3266
Quote from: deadskinmask post_id=489374 time=1672323982 user_id=1582
a cocaine addiction would be more affordable than trying to satisfy the munchies in bidens economy.... :sad:
Save money on groceries by using the crack diet lol.
biden handed out free crackpipes to promote racial equity because demonrats know black ppl love smoking crack.... and republicans are racist.... :sad:
Quote from: Dove post_id=489373 time=1672323789 user_id=3266
Quote from: Blazor post_id=489286 time=1672281558 user_id=2221
Do what ya gotta do. If she wants to smoke cigs n be able to LIVE with heat and food, she needs to quit that sneaky shit n let you do what you gotta do.
And when she gets mad, make her smoke some weed :laugh:
You want some edibles? My dude makes shit look like chocolate bars, she be out in no time after a case of the giggles and the munchies :laugh:
I WISH she liked weed. That would solve everything as far as I'm concerned.
Nestle crunch bars, rice krispy treats.... jus' sayin' :laugh:
Quote from: deadskinmask post_id=489374 time=1672323982 user_id=1582
a cocaine addiction would be more affordable than trying to satisfy the munchies in bidens economy.... :sad:
You're tellin' me!!! Fuck! Shit is expensive as fuck! A damn bag of Funyuns are frickin' over $5!!! :mad: