Some of you here have been divorced. I was wondering how you achieved it? WHAT steps did you take to walk out?
Did you just pack up and temporarily move to a friend's place, your parents, a cheap hotel...?
What did you do the first day you left?
I am seeing a LOT of vans atm with obvious homeless people... something I have never seen before.
BTW. In a few hours Category 5 Cyclone Ilsa will cross our north Pilbara coast...that is our most severe storm in 14 years..
Van Life is a lifestyle choice these days...
Quote from: Frood post_id=497610 time=1681393339 user_id=1676
Van Life is a lifestyle choice these days...
I saw a fully packed rig down the beach a couple of days ago.... surfboards in covers too... Vic number plates... They must be doing some sought of national trek...
Ending a relationship, especially a marriage, is a decision not to be made lightly. We are social creatures after all and healthy interpersonal arrangements are to be highly prized, worked towards and cherished above all else.
That said, if you are absolutely certain that yours is over, that there is nothing to salvage and getting the fuck out of Dodge is the only option available, then the answer to your question is "whatever it takes". In my experience it doesn't need to be that drastic, as I have managed to keep a number of exes as friends after the fact, others I've ghosted or simply fallen out of touch with... it all depends on the circumstances. Only one case I can think of where the situation had ever turned physically violent and I made sure I removed myself when I anticipated that I was at the point of responding to her in kind, though I did leave the door open to the notion of third party counselling with a view to reconciliation after I'd packed my bags and done the Harold Holt for a brief stay as I organized alternative accommodation.
In that case, the ex preferred to maintain her drug fueled lifestyle and I wasn't interested in further dalliances with such activities. I left her to her own devices and did my own thing. I'd already spent the better part of five years standing by someone who put their habit in front of the relationship, it did hurt to walk from it but it was the right thing to do. I don't know if she's even still alive and frankly don't care - there's only so much I can do for others, my first responsibility has to be to myself if I am to be in any position to help them and they need to have a similar outlook for themselves if it's going to work. Otherwise....
Everyone's circumstances are going to be different. I would hope none of you ever have to face the unpleasantness and emotional drain of a breakup, but if you do then the best advice I can give is to weigh your options and act rationally. It won't be easy... in fact it's bloody hard to maintain a presence of mind to make the right choice when you feel it all falling apart about you, but you have to try. Don't be frightened to face your own errors and shortcomings either, they are likely a part of why you find yourself where you are and you need to consider them when making your choice. I can't stress that enough, but you should also know not to be hard on yourself when considering them along with your partner's. You can always work on fixing them later if you can't sort them out in the Now, but it is the Now that you need to navigate.
Quote from: caskur post_id=497607 time=1681392334 user_id=2156
Some of you here have been divorced. I was wondering how you achieved it? WHAT steps did you take to walk out?
Did you just pack up and temporarily move to a friend's place, your parents, a cheap hotel...?
What did you do the first day you left?
I am seeing a LOT of vans atm with obvious homeless people... something I have never seen before.
BTW. In a few hours Category 5 Cyclone Ilsa will cross our north Pilbara coast...that is our most severe storm in 14 years..
My parents are divorced. I wasn't really surprised. They had been living apart under the same roof for many years before my Dad moved in with his girlfriend.
Their house was sold. Mom moved in with us.
Sad... Your poor mum...
Maybe she liked it that way...
Quote from: caskur post_id=497622 time=1681401190 user_id=2156
Sad... Your poor mum...
Maybe she liked it that way...
She knew the marriage was over.
My wife was a dirty whore and ran out on me and the kids. It was easy. I got sole custody, child support which it turns out bitches dont pay either, and possession of the house on our first court date. Eventually we settled on joint custody no child support 1 year later.
Getting out of any relationship married or not is hard. Even after two years of living together in BC is considered common-law and van be treated like a divorce..some people go after everything they can.
If you are wanting to separate, just do it....move out and move on...don't wait for them...some people like to play games and prolong everything....just do it and deal with it...get help if you think you need it.
My kids dad got divorced from his whirlwind marriage, I knew it wouldn't last...im so glad I got full custody and no contact order...that fycked up relationship helped me get the hell away from him, permanently.
Don't stay cause you feel sorry for them or the kids sake...some people are just toxic.
I am divorced and remarried. I hooked up with my first wife in my early twenties. I knocked her up and we got married. I was young, working abroad, making good coin and banging every woman I could.
We had an amicable divorce. I never missed a maintenance payment plus I always paid more for extras. I paid my boy's entire costs in university and bought his first vehicle. I have two grandkids with my ex and I see her on occasion at my boy's place. She remarried too and is doing well. As far as divorces go, my divorce is about as good as a guy can expect.
It's always best to have a "go to hell" savings stash, just in case
Its always best to have a plan to kill your wife... Just incase.
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It's always best to have a "go to hell" savings stash, just in case
^^^^ see, now that is smart thinking.
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It's always best to have a "go to hell" savings stash, just in case
That's what Mom did.
Quote from: Lokmar post_id=497665 time=1681437145 user_id=3351
My wife was a dirty whore and ran out on me and the kids. It was easy. I got sole custody, child support which it turns out bitches dont pay either, and possession of the house on our first court date. Eventually we settled on joint custody no child support 1 year later.
Bitches are shielded by the courts in order to continue to behave like unreliable, untrustworthy, conniving bitches.
I would have sold the house just to fund lawyers and court cases that would have MADE HER PAY her fair share..
Good for the goose, it better well be fucking good for the gander when he's doing all the goose's shit too.
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Quote from: Lokmar post_id=497665 time=1681437145 user_id=3351
My wife was a dirty whore and ran out on me and the kids. It was easy. I got sole custody, child support which it turns out bitches dont pay either, and possession of the house on our first court date. Eventually we settled on joint custody no child support 1 year later.
Bitches are shielded by the courts in order to continue to behave like unreliable, untrustworthy, conniving bitches.
I would have sold the house just to fund lawyers and court cases that would have MADE HER PAY her fair share..
Good for the goose, it better well be fucking good for the gander when he's doing all the goose's shit too.
I can tell you this, everyone was shocked when they learned me, a man, got sole custody right from the start. That shit pimp slapped the fuck outta her and made her look like complete scum. 20+ years ago, that wasnt real common.
Its normal for the wife to wanna leave the husband destitute.
If he is destitute, nobody helps him... Nobody gives him money so that he can have a decent place to raise kids in.
When we do the same, we are being thought of as selfish, heartless etc.
She is poor as fuck and living in a low rent apartment while we share custody... I´m supposed to help her out "for the kids".
How dare I leave the mother of my kids to rot in a ghetto...
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498004 time=1681845458 user_id=136
Its normal for the wife to wanna leave the husband destitute.
If he is destitute, nobody helps him... Nobody gives him money so that he can have a decent place to raise kids in.
When we do the same, we are being thought of as selfish, heartless etc.
She is poor as fuck and living in a low rent apartment while we share custody... I´m supposed to help her out "for the kids".
How dare I leave the mother of my kids to rot in a ghetto...
Do you think men want to part with their money? My Dad sure as fuck didn't.
Quote from: Frood post_id=497957 time=1681802237 user_id=1676
Quote from: Lokmar post_id=497665 time=1681437145 user_id=3351
My wife was a dirty whore and ran out on me and the kids. It was easy. I got sole custody, child support which it turns out bitches dont pay either, and possession of the house on our first court date. Eventually we settled on joint custody no child support 1 year later.
Bitches are shielded by the courts in order to continue to behave like unreliable, untrustworthy, conniving bitches.
I would have sold the house just to fund lawyers and court cases that would have MADE HER PAY her fair share..
Good for the goose, it better well be fucking good for the gander when he's doing all the goose's shit too.
You know, for all the claims you say how good your wife is, you sound really bitter about females.
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Quote from: Frood post_id=497957 time=1681802237 user_id=1676
Bitches are shielded by the courts in order to continue to behave like unreliable, untrustworthy, conniving bitches.
I would have sold the house just to fund lawyers and court cases that would have MADE HER PAY her fair share..
Good for the goose, it better well be fucking good for the gander when he's doing all the goose's shit too.
You know, for all thecclaims you say how good yourcwife is, you sound really bitter about females.
I've always been an equal opportunity motherfucker but females get free rides just for having a cunt. It's not right and I have never tolerated it.
Equality works both ways so enjoy getting shit on like guys have been by you.
Batting your eyelashes or baring your rears won't work, cunts. You're supposed to be every bit as equal as men and we don't do that superficial shit to get out of responsibility or trouble. :JC_howdy:
Quote from: caskur post_id=497607 time=1681392334 user_id=2156
Some of you here have been divorced. I was wondering how you achieved it? WHAT steps did you take to walk out?
Did you just pack up and temporarily move to a friend's place, your parents, a cheap hotel...?
What did you do the first day you left?
I am seeing a LOT of vans atm with obvious homeless people... something I have never seen before.
BTW. In a few hours Category 5 Cyclone Ilsa will cross our north Pilbara coast...that is our most severe storm in 14 years..
I'm not terribly surprised that a large number of posters in these forums & even in this thread are divorced, caskur.
Their manners, and the way they carry themselves and trash talk others is apparent. If they're awful to others in a forum, they likely are to their spouses in real life.
What partner would wanna stick with someone who's always abusive towards them?
If they've gone through a messy divorce which has cost them a huge chunk of their earnings, they should look in the mirror and ask themselves why. Maybe record themselves and play it back to others to see where they really did go wrong.
Sometimes people have to accept the blame and the responsibility that goes along with being an adult. Can't be children forever.
That might smarten em up.
Quote from: JOE post_id=498066 time=1681868243 user_id=97
Quote from: caskur post_id=497607 time=1681392334 user_id=2156
Some of you here have been divorced. I was wondering how you achieved it? WHAT steps did you take to walk out?
Did you just pack up and temporarily move to a friend's place, your parents, a cheap hotel...?
What did you do the first day you left?
I am seeing a LOT of vans atm with obvious homeless people... something I have never seen before.
BTW. In a few hours Category 5 Cyclone Ilsa will cross our north Pilbara coast...that is our most severe storm in 14 years..
I'm not terribly surprised that a large number of posters in these forums & even in this thread are divorced, caskur.
Their manners, and the way they carry themselves and trash talk others is apparent.
What partner would wanna stick with someone who's always abusive towards them?
If they've gone through a messy divorce which has cost them a huge chunk of their earnings, they should look in the mirror and ask themselves why. Maybe recrod themselves and play it back to others to see where they really did go wrong.
That might smarten em up.
I've noticed just the opposite Joe. I find the single posters have the worst manners and trash talk others. I guess that's one of the many reasons Edweird for example is involuntarily single.
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Quote from: JOE post_id=498066 time=1681868243 user_id=97
I'm not terribly surprised that a large number of posters in these forums & even in this thread are divorced, caskur.
Their manners, and the way they carry themselves and trash talk others is apparent.
What partner would wanna stick with someone who's always abusive towards them?
If they've gone through a messy divorce which has cost them a huge chunk of their earnings, they should look in the mirror and ask themselves why. Maybe recrod themselves and play it back to others to see where they really did go wrong.
That might smarten em up.
I've noticed just the opposite Joe. I find the single posters have the worst manners and trash talk others. I guess that's one of the many reasons Edweird for example is involuntarily single.
Incels like Eddy and Joe are the worst posters.
Quote from: JOE post_id=498066 time=1681868243 user_id=97
Quote from: caskur post_id=497607 time=1681392334 user_id=2156
Some of you here have been divorced. I was wondering how you achieved it? WHAT steps did you take to walk out?
Did you just pack up and temporarily move to a friend's place, your parents, a cheap hotel...?
What did you do the first day you left?
I am seeing a LOT of vans atm with obvious homeless people... something I have never seen before.
BTW. In a few hours Category 5 Cyclone Ilsa will cross our north Pilbara coast...that is our most severe storm in 14 years..
I'm not terribly surprised that a large number of posters in these forums & even in this thread are divorced, caskur.
Their manners, and the way they carry themselves and trash talk others is apparent. If they're awful to others in a forum, they likely are to their spouses in real life.
What partner would wanna stick with someone who's always abusive towards them?
If they've gone through a messy divorce which has cost them a huge chunk of their earnings, they should look in the mirror and ask themselves why. Maybe record themselves and play it back to others to see where they really did go wrong.
Sometimes people have to accept the blame and the responsibility that goes along with being an adult. Can't be children forever.
That might smarten em up.
I am single Jo Jo. I am mannerly and I would never be abusive to you.
oh ffs.... women work twice as hard as men... Get knotted sook.
Quote from: JOE post_id=498066 time=1681868243 user_id=97
Quote from: caskur post_id=497607 time=1681392334 user_id=2156
Some of you here have been divorced. I was wondering how you achieved it? WHAT steps did you take to walk out?
Did you just pack up and temporarily move to a friend's place, your parents, a cheap hotel...?
What did you do the first day you left?
I am seeing a LOT of vans atm with obvious homeless people... something I have never seen before.
BTW. In a few hours Category 5 Cyclone Ilsa will cross our north Pilbara coast...that is our most severe storm in 14 years..
I'm not terribly surprised that a large number of posters in these forums & even in this thread are divorced, caskur.
Their manners, and the way they carry themselves and trash talk others is apparent. If they're awful to others in a forum, they likely are to their spouses in real life.
What partner would wanna stick with someone who's always abusive towards them?
If they've gone through a messy divorce which has cost them a huge chunk of their earnings, they should look in the mirror and ask themselves why. Maybe record themselves and play it back to others to see where they really did go wrong.
Sometimes people have to accept the blame and the responsibility that goes along with being an adult. Can't be children forever.
That might smarten em up.
THERE are a lot of big babies on these forums... I am mad because my washing machine broke, my recliner broke, ....The car broke ( fixed now).... all 3 things cost HUGE bucks...
Eddy is fucked in the head. He tattles on his neighbour for feeding birds... what a pussy he is.
Well I love Joes posts. He is a good thinker!!!
eddy's posts are vomit inducing.
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Quote from: JOE post_id=498066 time=1681868243 user_id=97
I'm not terribly surprised that a large number of posters in these forums & even in this thread are divorced, caskur.
Their manners, and the way they carry themselves and trash talk others is apparent. If they're awful to others in a forum, they likely are to their spouses in real life.
What partner would wanna stick with someone who's always abusive towards them?
If they've gone through a messy divorce which has cost them a huge chunk of their earnings, they should look in the mirror and ask themselves why. Maybe record themselves and play it back to others to see where they really did go wrong.
Sometimes people have to accept the blame and the responsibility that goes along with being an adult. Can't be children forever.
That might smarten em up.
I am single Jo Jo. I am mannerly and I would never be abusive to you.
My post was for DD. You got between us.
Quote from: caskur post_id=498097 time=1681875279 user_id=2156
Quote from: Thiel post_id=498080 time=1681871609 user_id=1688
I am single Jo Jo. I am mannerly and I would never be abusive to you.
My post was for DD. You got between us.
I did not read your post or respond to it. I was talking to Jo Jo.
Quote from: caskur post_id=498096 time=1681875040 user_id=2156
Well I love Joes posts. He is a good thinker!!!
eddy's posts are vomit inducing.
I love Jo Jo too. He loves me. He is playing hard to get because he has never dated a conservative man before.
Quote from: Thiel post_id=498100 time=1681875695 user_id=1688
Quote from: caskur post_id=498096 time=1681875040 user_id=2156
Well I love Joes posts. He is a good thinker!!!
eddy's posts are vomit inducing.
I love Jo Jo too. He loves me. He is playing hard to get because he has never dated a conservative man before.
lol... he is discriminatory ... ya just can't get an accommodating date these days.
How divorce works in the US depends on the state.
Most states are no fault so you can file easily. I live in a no fault state and it's grossly easy. If you have kids it's a mandatory 6 month waiting period from the time you file to it being granted. In that 6 months you go through the FOC (friend of the court) to decide things like custody and child support and it's best couples stay willing to work with eachother.
In a state like a NY it's a nightmare.
In BC you can apply for divorce, but you have to be separated for one year before they grant it.
How ones divorce pans out depends how much of an asshole or a cunt one was/is.
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498111 time=1681889798 user_id=164
In BC you can apply for divorce, but you have to be separated for one year before they grant it.
How ones divorce pans out depends how much of an asshole or a cunt one was/is.
Yep. And their family.
We don't have any laws like that here....it's kinda ghoulish how easy it is.
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498111 time=1681889798 user_id=164
In BC you can apply for divorce, but you have to be separated for one year before they grant it.
How ones divorce pans out depends how much of an asshole or a cunt one was/is.
I think there was a one year wait here too unless you've been married for decades..... but I don't know much about it.
Quote from: Dove post_id=498109 time=1681889074 user_id=3266
How divorce works in the US depends on the state.
Most states are no fault so you can file easily. I live in a no fault state and it's grossly easy. If you have kids it's a mandatory 6 month waiting period from the time you file to it being granted. In that 6 months you go through the FOC (friend of the court) to decide things like custody and child support and it's best couples stay willing to work with eachother.
In a state like a NY it's a nightmare.
Hi Dove. Long time, no see. Welcome back.
Quote from: DKG post_id=498126 time=1681913834 user_id=3390
Quote from: Dove post_id=498109 time=1681889074 user_id=3266
How divorce works in the US depends on the state.
Most states are no fault so you can file easily. I live in a no fault state and it's grossly easy. If you have kids it's a mandatory 6 month waiting period from the time you file to it being granted. In that 6 months you go through the FOC (friend of the court) to decide things like custody and child support and it's best couples stay willing to work with eachother.
In a state like a NY it's a nightmare.
Hi Dove. Long time, no see. Welcome back.
Thanks! Yeah I recently moved and now I'm back living in the God awful metro area BUT in my hometown so it's not SO bad and I've had a lot going on. So I've just been shit posting at BF here and there.
Good to see you ac_drinks
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Quote from: DKG post_id=498126 time=1681913834 user_id=3390
Hi Dove. Long time, no see. Welcome back.
Thanks! Yeah I recently moved and now I'm back living in the God awful metro area BUT in my hometown so it's not SO bad and I've had a lot going on. So I've just been shit posting at BF here and there.
Good to see you ac_drinks
All I have ever known are metro areas. That will change when I retire. Unfortunately, that is not going to happen in the next year or two.
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Quote from: Odinson post_id=498004 time=1681845458 user_id=136
Its normal for the wife to wanna leave the husband destitute.
If he is destitute, nobody helps him... Nobody gives him money so that he can have a decent place to raise kids in.
When we do the same, we are being thought of as selfish, heartless etc.
She is poor as fuck and living in a low rent apartment while we share custody... I´m supposed to help her out "for the kids".
How dare I leave the mother of my kids to rot in a ghetto...
Do you think men want to part with their money? My Dad sure as fuck didn't.
Your parents get divorced and you are a small child.
Your mother struggles to support you on her agreed time while your father lives a nice life and can support you.
Your mother goes cuckoo because of the stress.
Everybody is gonna hate your father for not doing more to help... He is supposed to help your nutty mother to make ends meet and get herself back in health.
No such sentiment exists when the genders are reversed and it is your father who is struggling.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498355 time=1682015202 user_id=136
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498005 time=1681845612 user_id=3389
Do you think men want to part with their money? My Dad sure as fuck didn't.
Your parents get divorced and you are a small child.
Your mother struggles to support you on her agreed time while your father lives a nice life and can support you.
Your mother goes cuckoo because of the stress.
Everybody is gonna hate your father for not doing more to help... He is supposed to help your nutty mother to make ends meet and get herself back in health.
No such sentiment exists when the genders are reversed and it is your father who is struggling.
That wasn't how my parents divorce turned out. Not even close.
Quote from: caskur post_id=498093 time=1681874394 user_id=2156
oh ffs.... women work twice as hard as men...
That was the whole point of suffrage. To get women working twice as hard as men.
True story.
Women and men alike fell for the troll.
Also a true story.
Women have to put in twice the effort to do what I can easily.
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Quote from: caskur post_id=498093 time=1681874394 user_id=2156
oh ffs.... women work twice as hard as men...
That was the whole point of suffrage. To get women working twice as hard as men.
True story.
Women and men alike fell for the troll.
Also a true story.
Everybody worked twice as hard a century ago as they do today.
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498485 time=1682103789 user_id=3389
Quote from: Guest post_id=498443 time=1682063510
That was the whole point of suffrage. To get women working twice as hard as men.
True story.
Women and men alike fell for the troll.
Also a true story.
Everybody worked twice as hard a century ago as they do today.
Hell, I had a 14 year old relative that died in the mines south of Springfield 100 years ago. Shit was rough back then!
Quote from: Lokmar post_id=498513 time=1682134333 user_id=3351
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498485 time=1682103789 user_id=3389
Everybody worked twice as hard a century ago as they do today.
Hell, I had a 14 year old relative that died in the mines south of Springfield 100 years ago. Shit was rough back then!
That still happens.
Quote from: Dove post_id=498517 time=1682139385 user_id=3266
Quote from: Lokmar post_id=498513 time=1682134333 user_id=3351
Hell, I had a 14 year old relative that died in the mines south of Springfield 100 years ago. Shit was rough back then!
That still happens.
Thankfully, not around here!
I'm not sure how it works when one party doesn't agree. They prolong it and cause all havoc during the process. They do it to hurt the other person and pay more money in fees and shit.
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Quote from: Lokmar post_id=498513 time=1682134333 user_id=3351
Hell, I had a 14 year old relative that died in the mines south of Springfield 100 years ago. Shit was rough back then!
That still happens.
Fourteen year olds working in mines today? That does not happen anymore.
Not in the west but in other places of the world, a 14 year old is a seasoned miner. ac_biggrin
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498534 time=1682173330 user_id=136
Not in the west but in other places of the world, a 14 year old is a seasoned miner. ac_biggrin
In the Congo, eight year olds work in mines so people in California can have solar panels on their gated houses drive and electric cars.
Quote from: Lokmar post_id=498465 time=1682088098 user_id=3351
Women have to put in twice the effort to do what I can easily.
Does that include hand jobs?
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Quote from: Lokmar post_id=498465 time=1682088098 user_id=3351
Women have to put in twice the effort to do what I can easily.
Does that include hand jobs?
ABSOLUTELY!!!!
Thats why she lets me soak it in cider!!
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498485 time=1682103789 user_id=3389
Quote from: Guest post_id=498443 time=1682063510
That was the whole point of suffrage. To get women working twice as hard as men.
True story.
Women and men alike fell for the troll.
Also a true story.
Everybody worked twice as hard a century ago as they do today.
Not according to an old lady I knew.... she said in the old days, women had shopping days, baking days, washing days, ironing days, cleaning days....she said women today are expected to work a job, shop, cooked, wash, clean EVERYDAY and somewhere between all that see kids to and from school.
So no, women did not work harder formerly according to this old woman I knew.
It was to her credit the old lady paid homage to modern mums.
I have decided I hate my husband but don't know what to do about it.
Kurt the kunt....
Quote from: caskur post_id=498595 time=1682261601 user_id=2156
I have decided I hate my husband but don't know what to do about it.
Kurt the kunt....
How long have you been married?
A submissive traditional wife... Settle for nothing less.
#tradwife.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498608 time=1682266515 user_id=136
A submissive traditional wife... Settle for nothing less.
#tradwife.
Fashionista is taken.
Quote from: caskur post_id=498589 time=1682244421 user_id=2156
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498485 time=1682103789 user_id=3389
Everybody worked twice as hard a century ago as they do today.
Not according to an old lady I knew.... she said in the old days, women had shopping days, baking days, washing days, ironing days, cleaning days....she said women today are expected to work a job, shop, cooked, wash, clean EVERYDAY and somewhere between all that see kids to and from school.
So no, women did not work harder formerly according to this old woman I knew.
You would have dropped dead from a heartattack 100 years ago.
Quote from: caskur post_id=498595 time=1682261601 user_id=2156
I have decided I hate my husband but don't know what to do about it.
Kurt the kunt....
White people shouldn't be allowed to get married and reproduce. They are disgusting.
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Quote from: caskur post_id=498595 time=1682261601 user_id=2156
I have decided I hate my husband but don't know what to do about it.
Kurt the kunt....
How long have you been married?
39 years next August,... why?
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498627 time=1682271113 user_id=3389
Quote from: caskur post_id=498595 time=1682261601 user_id=2156
I have decided I hate my husband but don't know what to do about it.
Kurt the kunt....
White people shouldn't be allowed to get married and reproduce. They are disgusting.
there are 5 billion too many people period!
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Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498627 time=1682271113 user_id=3389
White people shouldn't be allowed to get married and reproduce. They are disgusting.
there are 5 billion too many people period!
Slaughter the whites starting with your fat, hairy white ass.
The population was only 2 billion in the 1940´s.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498640 time=1682272860 user_id=136
The population was only 2 billion in the 1940´s.
Ya so. Where are you going with this?
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498642 time=1682273134 user_id=3389
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498640 time=1682272860 user_id=136
The population was only 2 billion in the 1940´s.
Ya so. Where are you going with this?
The population is getting bigger and fast.
Our system requires ever expanding population.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498645 time=1682273351 user_id=136
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498642 time=1682273134 user_id=3389
Ya so. Where are you going with this?
The population is getting bigger and fast.
Our system requires ever expanding population.
We require more cheap energy, but you whites don't want that.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498640 time=1682272860 user_id=136
The population was only 2 billion in the 1940´s.
Yes, 2, 3 billion is a comfortable population,...7.8 billion is disgusting.
Quote from: caskur post_id=498648 time=1682274142 user_id=2156
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498640 time=1682272860 user_id=136
The population was only 2 billion in the 1940´s.
Yes, 2, 3 billion is a comfortable population,...7.8 billion is disgusting.
Then put your money where your mouth is and kill urself.
I learned new word a couple of days ago that describes some of us,....Weltschmerz.
Yo people...don't linger around breathing in the last wif of a bad fart of a marriage...If ypur partner is awful, just leave...it can be hard, but it's what's best...you can't fix psycho.
I DO HAZ DE QUESTION, THO....
How do you get rid of your kid who is 19-20 years old? Refuses to find work ot do anything? Treats you like trash?
** please note, this is not my issue...my kid is actually really good..goes to school, is volunteering right now and has just started to look for work and will be getting the drivers license soon...still a minor.
I know a few single parents whose kids have aged out and just bloody terrible! They destroy the home....holes in walls and doors...doors ripped off Hinges in the kitchen...big messes...real bad attitudes...refusal to get work and support themselves..call their moms lazy bitches and all sorts of vile shit.
One of my friends wants to move out of her 2 bdrm place and move in with her bf...but her son who is now 20...refuses to do anything...she's so upset by this...what does this woman do??
I get it, it's her son and even tho he's the way he is, she doesnt want to leave him homeless but is on her last straw with him...
...should she just give notice to her landlord abd leave on her own into he bfs place...and give her son 30 days to fuckin do something? And just leave him there on his own to figure it out?
I feel once she hits her breaking point she may do this.
Anyone dealt with this? Or k ow anyone who has? Any stories? I'd love to help my friend out of this situation...she's so nice and a hard worker...she doesn't deserve this...
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498645 time=1682273351 user_id=136
The population is getting bigger and fast.
Our system requires ever expanding population.
Unfortunately there's only one continent that has high birth rates these days, and that's Africa. So I guess we know who our new neighbours will be soon, as every Western nation imports hordes of them in an attempt to keep our ponzi scheme propped up.
We're gonna get BLACKED!
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498694 time=1682306641 user_id=164
Yo people...don't linger around breathing in the last wif of a bad fart of a marriage...If ypur partner is awful, just leave...it can be hard, but it's what's best...you can't fix psycho.
I DO HAZ DE QUESTION, THO....
How do you get rid of your kid who is 19-20 years old? Refuses to find work ot do anything? Treats you like trash?
** please note, this is not my issue...my kid is actually really good..goes to school, is volunteering right now and has just started to look for work and will be getting the drivers license soon...still a minor.
I know a few single parents whose kids have aged out and just bloody terrible! They destroy the home....holes in walls and doors...doors ripped off Hinges in the kitchen...big messes...real bad attitudes...refusal to get work and support themselves..call their moms lazy bitches and all sorts of vile shit.
One of my friends wants to move out of her 2 bdrm place and move in with her bf...but her son who is now 20...refuses to do anything...she's so upset by this...what does this woman do??
I get it, it's her son and even tho he's the way he is, she doesnt want to leave him homeless but is on her last straw with him...
...should she just give notice to her landlord abd leave on her own into he bfs place...and give her son 30 days to fuckin do something? And just leave him there on his own to figure it out?
I feel once she hits her breaking point she may do this.
Anyone dealt with this? Or k ow anyone who has? Any stories? I'd love to help my friend out of this situation...she's so nice and a hard worker...she doesn't deserve this...
If the kid is useless, he should look at getting into some sort of supportive housing sooner rather than later before his ass ends up homeless. I think they have programs and shit to teach useful skills.
Quote from: "Melson Gibson" post_id=498697 time=1682308500 user_id=3397
If the kid is useless, he should look at getting into some sort of supportive housing sooner rather than later before his ass ends up homeless. I think they have programs and shit to teach useful skills.
Sadly, he has issues. She has an older daughter who is doing great...but this one is something else. I know a few others who I don't want to talk to anymore because of their kids behaviour..its not the parents fault...these are people with multiple kids...all of them are good except the one.
Once a kid turns 18, they ahe out and the system abandons them. There is help, but it's hard to access. There are waiting lists everywhere that can take years before you get help with anything.
There are too many people and not enough workers/people to help...there ate shortages everywhere...and now the CRA is on strike, which will do nothing but slow everything down even more.
It sounds like her son is a candidate for disability...this is a difficult area tho and wait lists are extreme....with all of his problems and refusal to help himself...it will take years to achieve anything for this kid. It's extremely difficult to get on disability today...its quite the process...they don't just approve anyone, it's pretty strict.
Any housing that becomes available, instead of existing Canadian citizens in need or our younger generation who are struggling...it goes to refugees and immigrants...it makes no sense.
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498702 time=1682310308 user_id=164
Sadly, he has issues. She has an older daughter who is doing great...but this one is something else. I know a few others who I don't want to talk to anymore because of their kids behaviour..its not the parents fault...these are people with multiple kids...all of them are good except the one.
Once a kid turns 18, they ahe out and the system abandons them. There is help, but it's hard to access. There are waiting lists everywhere that can take years before you get help with anything.
There are too many people and not enough workers/people to help...there ate shortages everywhere...and now the CRA is on strike, which will do nothing but slow everything down even more.
It sounds like her son is a candidate for disability...this is a difficult area tho and wait lists are extreme....with all of his problems and refusal to help himself...it will take years to achieve anything for this kid. It's extremely difficult to get on disability today...its quite the process...they don't just approve anyone, it's pretty strict.
Any housing that becomes available, instead of existing Canadian citizens in need or our younger generation who are struggling...it goes to refugees and immigrants...it makes no sense.
If he can get on disability, all the better I suppose. I don't think it's that difficult... I know a fairly normal dude that somehow got on it.
And that's why I mentioned he should start sooner rather than later, because here's what will happen if he doesn't: End up homeless. Get 'regular' welfare cheque that pays no more than $375/month for rent. Find that nobody rents anything for $375/month. End up in a homeless shelter with the absolute dregs of society. Get addicted to drugs with the dregs. Die.
There was a time when a regular welfare cheque would get you some shithole apartment, but those days are done for a variety of reasons, including our government bringing in over one million immigrants every year into infrastructure that is not even remotely designed to handle that number, as you mentioned...
Quote from: caskur post_id=497607 time=1681392334 user_id=2156
Some of you here have been divorced. I was wondering how you achieved it? WHAT steps did you take to walk out?
Did you just pack up and temporarily move to a friend's place, your parents, a cheap hotel...?
What did you do the first day you left?
I am seeing a LOT of vans atm with obvious homeless people... something I have never seen before.
You must seriously consider your actions here before walking out on a 39 year marriage. Unless he's slapping you around, fucking other women, or engaging in some sort of extremely degenerate behaviour, I think that many problems can be worked out if some effort is put in.
And that effort is required by both parties. And herein lies the problem. Very rarely are marriage problems the sole fault of just one partner, but it is simply just easier to blame one another instead of both putting in any effort to fix things.
That being said, to answer your question, my ex just left and stayed with a coworker acquaintance until she found an apartment to rent. I also suspect that same coworker was behind filling her head with BS ideas, but that's a moot point now.
Quote from: "Melson Gibson" post_id=498704 time=1682310988 user_id=3397
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498702 time=1682310308 user_id=164
Sadly, he has issues. She has an older daughter who is doing great...but this one is something else. I know a few others who I don't want to talk to anymore because of their kids behaviour..its not the parents fault...these are people with multiple kids...all of them are good except the one.
Once a kid turns 18, they ahe out and the system abandons them. There is help, but it's hard to access. There are waiting lists everywhere that can take years before you get help with anything.
There are too many people and not enough workers/people to help...there ate shortages everywhere...and now the CRA is on strike, which will do nothing but slow everything down even more.
It sounds like her son is a candidate for disability...this is a difficult area tho and wait lists are extreme....with all of his problems and refusal to help himself...it will take years to achieve anything for this kid. It's extremely difficult to get on disability today...its quite the process...they don't just approve anyone, it's pretty strict.
Any housing that becomes available, instead of existing Canadian citizens in need or our younger generation who are struggling...it goes to refugees and immigrants...it makes no sense.
If he can get on disability, all the better I suppose. I don't think it's that difficult... I know a fairly normal dude that somehow got on it.
And that's why I mentioned he should start sooner rather than later, because here's what will happen if he doesn't: End up homeless. Get 'regular' welfare cheque that pays no more than $375/month for rent. Find that nobody rents anything for $375/month. End up in a homeless shelter with the absolute dregs of society. Get addicted to drugs with the dregs. Die.
There was a time when a regular welfare cheque would get you some shithole apartment, but those days are done for a variety of reasons, including our government bringing in over one million immigrants every year into infrastructure that is not even remotely designed to handle that number, as you mentioned...
Yet the homeless, the people who still remain, will outlive everybody...
I would have ended that with a "zombie apocalypse"... but that's not needed. Us humans are doing it every day against others.
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Quote from: DKG post_id=498607 time=1682266506 user_id=3390
How long have you been married?
39 years next August,... why?
That's a very long time.
Today is a reverent day, a day for deep mourning,....a day to count our blessings...
Today is ANZAC DAY!!!!
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Q8KL8quqoPw
Are you related to Simo Häyäh?
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Are you related to Simo Häyäh?
Are you related to Abraham Lincoln?
Fun fact: I'm related to the people eaters of the Donner Party.
My grandfather was a general in the PLA He was assigned to Beijing in 1989 to suppress protests.
Divorce is hard on the soul.
Its not if you got a prenup.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=498840 time=1682457271 user_id=136
Its not if you got a prenup.
You wouldn't need a prenup if you had the skills of Simo Häyäh.
He is the greatest Finn of all time.
I don't ever want to get married.
I'm happy being single. Maybe one day I may get into a relationship...but, he goes home to his place and I go home to mine. None of this funny business shit. Got debt? Go find someone else. I'm not interested in dating someone at my age with extreme debt over stupid shit and poor decisions. The only debt that is understandable is a mortgage or car payments.
Stay away from people who have multiple maxed out credit cards or haven't filed their taxes in years because they know they owe money. I'm not getting involved in that.
Peace and fuckin quiet...smooth sailing for me only.
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498849 time=1682461370 user_id=164
I don't ever want to get married.
I'm happy being single. Maybe one day I may get into a relationship...but, he goes home to his place and I go home to mine. None of this funny business shit. Got debt? Go find someone else. I'm not interested in dating someone at my age with extreme debt over stupid shit and poor decisions. The only debt that is understandable is a mortgage or car payments.
Stay away from people who have multiple maxed out credit cards or haven't filed their taxes in years because they know they owe money. I'm not getting involved in that.
Peace and fuckin quiet...smooth sailing for me only.
I got married and divorced young. It was for the best. I never thought I would ever remarry, but then I met a young geologist while living and wiorking abroad and that all changed. We lived together for years before we married.
I lived with my first serious lover for 7 years in my 20s...we were gonna get married but decided not to. It was a nice experience with that fellow...but I wouldn't want to do it again.
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498861 time=1682484916 user_id=164
I lived with my first serious lover for 7 years in my 20s...we were gonna get married but decided not to. It was a nice experience with that fellow...but I wouldn't want to do it again.
It gets harder to say I do the older you get. I never thought I would do it again.
I believe it. People just get sick n tired of bs.
When one gets to my age or older, it's hard to find a decent person. All that's left are left overs no one wants, psychos and coke heads. And they all wonder why no one wants to get with them :001_rolleyes:
Quote from: "Berry Sweet" post_id=498866 time=1682485820 user_id=164
I believe it. People just get sick n tired of bs.
When one gets to my age or older, it's hard to find a decent person. All that's left are left overs no one wants, psychos and coke heads. And they all wonder why no one wants to get with them :001_rolleyes:
A lot of North Americans, both guys and gals have relationship baggage by the time they are in their early to mid thirties.
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498816 time=1682445530 user_id=3389
My grandfather was a general in the PLA He was assigned to Beijing in 1989 to suppress protests.
+ 1 billion social credit points gained.
Execution date postponed.
Quote from: Odinson post_id=500432 time=1683918270 user_id=136
Quote from: "Shen Li" post_id=498816 time=1682445530 user_id=3389
My grandfather was a general in the PLA He was assigned to Beijing in 1989 to suppress protests.
+ 1 billion social credit points gained.
Execution date postponed.
Stopping those Western government paid for protests was the smart thing to do. The only thing to do.