Title: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 11:35:57 AM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 11:35:57 AM
A certain mentally disturbed person here seems to think that he can counterattack anything I say by calling me 400 pounds. Of course if he had any real brains, he'd be able to actually hold a debate without resorting to the same old boring grade school insult.
It's not like who I am is a secret. I was outted by another nutter ages ago.
So I'm going to post some pictures. Some of them can be found on my blog. Some are private. And there's even one without makeup!
First is my media picture. It's the one that's used more often than not at book signings. As you can see, the pic is a few years old from when my hair was longer.
This one was taken a few weeks ago. My hair is shorter now. Feel free to make fun of the haircut cause I don't particularly like it.
One without makeup! OMG!
And the grand finale. One taken about a month ago when I was at Yellowstone Park. Feel free to admire the cute puppy.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: keeper on October 10, 2014, 11:45:30 AM
Post by: keeper on October 10, 2014, 11:45:30 AM
I think you are beautiful ac_flower
Piss on the haters
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 11:53:12 AM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 11:53:12 AM
Oak pushes stupid stereotypes about me being some cheap "Asian passport ho" or some ridiculous shit like that too. Depending on my mood at the time I read his horseshit, it can get to me.
I think he may be a little jealous because both of us have enjoyed success in our careers. There are still guys like that ya know. It's just a thought, but I do believe it's a REAL possibility.
BTW, nice pics(gorgeous fucking hair BTW), but I still can't get an idea of your age? Don't say anything if you don't feel like it. It's just that I usually have an idea about a person's age, but with you I am drawing a blank sheet.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 11:57:53 AM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 11:57:53 AM
There is nothing Oak can say that would actually make me run and cry. I'm hoping that by doing this, he might have to scramble to try and find a new insult. But alas, I'm pretty sure he's going to continue calling me fat. As we all know, Oak isn't very good when it comes to finding new material.
I'm 41, Shen. OMG I said it! haha I'm lucky tho. I was blessed with good skin.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:03:51 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:03:51 PM
Oh, Oak isn't getting to me. What actually got to me was a few weeks ago when someone on Memebee posted a fat ass and someone else claimed it was mine. And then others started bitching to Evs that personal pictures need to be taken down. I think I was more offended that people automatically thought that ass was mine!!!!! LOLQuote from: "ghost"
There is nothing Oak can say that would actually make me run and cry. I'm hoping that by doing this, he might have to scramble to try and find a new insult. But alas, I'm pretty sure he's going to continue calling me fat. As we all know, Oak isn't very good when it comes to finding new material.I'm 41, Shen. OMG I said it! haha I'm lucky tho. I was blessed with good skin.
For whatever reason, you never dropped enough clues as to your age, so I couldn't even guess. It's a bizarre hobby I know, but I try to guess poster's ages. With you, I had no idea whatsoever. Now I know.
BTW, ur the same age as Renee.
P.S. I never saw that pic, but there is some immature troll on VF calling you a heroin addict. ac_rollseyes
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:07:50 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:07:50 PM
I was a late bloomer. In my early 20's, I was more interested in playing in a band than anything else. I didn't go back to Uni until I was 26. I've always been more interested in doing things I love than doing what's expected of me. All I know is that the older I get, the more I get to know myself, and the more fun I have.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:09:19 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:09:19 PM
P.S. I never saw that pic, but there is some immature troll on VF calling you heroin addict. ac_rollseyes
Yeah, that one made me giggle. I did a lot of drugs in my younger days and admitted that I smoked heroin once (actually it was twice). That gave .. the perfect ammunition.
For the record, I haven't touched drugs since I was 25 and smoked my last joint.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:11:05 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:11:05 PM
I like to think that being a YA writer keeps me young at heart. haha I can be both childish and mature, depending on the day.Quote from: "ghost"
I was a late bloomer. In my early 20's, I was more interested in playing in a band than anything else. I didn't go back to Uni until I was 26. I've always been more interested in doing things I love than doing what's expected of me. All I know is that the older I get, the more I get to know myself, and the more fun I have.
It would appear we both have a bit of a non-conformist streak in us. I occasionally wonder what might have been if I had pursued music. My parents would NOT hear of it of course, but still.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:13:56 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:13:56 PM
P.S. I never saw that pic, but there is some immature troll on VF calling you heroin addict. ac_rollseyes
Yeah, that one made me giggle. I did a lot of drugs in my younger days and admitted that I smoked heroin once (actually it was twice). That gave .. the perfect ammunition.
For the record, I haven't touched drugs since I was 25 and smoked my last joint.
You did it once, therefore you do it everyday and twice on Sundays. The same assholes gave Berry a hard time too even though it was like decades ago she made mistakes.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:15:38 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:15:38 PM
I loved playing in a band. I loved being on stage and wearing crazy outfits. But I finally reached a point in my life where it just wasn't fun anymore. For me, it was always about the storytelling, whether it was in song or written word. So I went back to writing. I'm much better at writing. lol
Funny enough, one of my old bandmates just told me he's going to California because Duran Duran has taken a liking to his new band and wants them to go on tour with them.
My Mom hated the music. She always said "It's a nice hobby, but you need to get a real job". Funny, she said the same thing about writing. Now she tells everyone how proud she is for my persistence and brags to people in bookstores.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:22:33 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:22:33 PM
The Arts are hard. So many get into them, so few ever go anywhere.Quote from: "ghost"
I loved playing in a band. I loved being on stage and wearing crazy outfits. But I finally reached a point in my life where it just wasn't fun anymore. For me, it was always about the storytelling, whether it was in song or written word. So I went back to writing. I'm much better at writing. lol
Funny enough, one of my old bandmates just told me he's going to California because Duran Duran has taken a liking to his new band and wants them to go on tour with them.
My Mom hated the music. She always said"It's a nice hobby, but you need to get a real job".Funny, she said the same thing about writing. Now she tells everyone how proud she is for my persistence and brags to people in bookstores.
Oh I've heard that one from my parents many times. The only difference is I never actually made an attempt at making a career of music. It was more just a teenage girl being a dreamer. They prolly would've disowned me if I had.
Funny, you mention about your mom being proud now. I read an interview once with the lead singer of Nickelback and how his father said the same thing to his sons. Now he likes to drive the tour bus.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:27:57 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:27:57 PM
Oh I've heard that one from my parents many times. The only difference is I never actually made an attempt at making a career of music. It was more just a teenage girl being a dreamer. They prolly would've disowned me if I had.
Funny, you mention about your mom being proud now. I read an interview once with the lead singer of Nickelback and how his father said the same thing to his sons. Now he likes to drive the tour bus.ac_toofunny
I think parents only want what's best for their children. And let's face it, like I said, so very few are successful in the arts. For every top ten band, there are hundreds of thousands of hopefuls.
As a parent, you want your children to have something to fall back on. You don't want them to be the fifty-year-olds still working crap jobs and talking about how their band is still gonna make it.
But if your child is successful...yeah, you sure want to brag about it. hahaha
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:36:26 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 12:36:26 PM
Oh I've heard that one from my parents many times. The only difference is I never actually made an attempt at making a career of music. It was more just a teenage girl being a dreamer. They prolly would've disowned me if I had.
Funny, you mention about your mom being proud now. I read an interview once with the lead singer of Nickelback and how his father said the same thing to his sons. Now he likes to drive the tour bus.ac_toofunny
I think parents only want what's best for their children. And let's face it, like I said, so very few are successful in the arts. For every top ten band, there are hundreds of thousands of hopefuls.As a parent, you want your children to have something to fall back on. You don't want them to be the fifty-year-olds still working crap jobs and talking about how their band is still gonna make it.
But if your child is successful...yeah, you sure want to brag about it. hahaha
Yep and I think we can all agree on that. Following your dreams is admirable, but if you DON'T succeed life can really suck without a plan B. This is just reality and young people need to understand that.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:43:39 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 12:43:39 PM
Yep and I think we can all agree on that. Following your dreams is admirable, but if you DON'T succeed life can really suck without a plan B. This is just reality and young people need to understand that.
I think the big problem is the myth today that one can do whatever they want if they try hard enough. It's simply not true. I wanted to be an astronaut as a child, but I just don't have the brains for science. There's nothing in the world that could ever change that.
I worked hard for free for many years. I worked day jobs I didn't particularly enjoy (I even did sales at Xerox for a while-worst job ever) and I wrote in the evenings.
Kids today seem to believe that they can graduate Uni and get their dream job in the blink of an eye. Funny enough, when I do school talks, I get a lot of teachers asking me to explain how difficult the arts is. But sadly, no matter how much I try and put a realistic spin on things, they still look at me and don't believe it.
Still, going into space would be freaking amazing. haha
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 01:10:14 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 01:10:14 PM
Yep and I think we can all agree on that. Following your dreams is admirable, but if you DON'T succeed life can really suck without a plan B. This is just reality and young people need to understand that.
I think the big problem is the myth today that one can do whatever they want if they try hard enough. It's simply not true. I wanted to be an astronaut as a child, but I just don't have the brains for science. There's nothing in the world that could ever change that.
I worked hard for free for many years. I worked day jobs I didn't particularly enjoy (I even did sales at Xerox for a while-worst job ever) and I wrote in the evenings.
Kids today seem to believe that they can graduate Uni and get their dream job in the blink of an eye. Funny enough, when I do school talks, I get a lot of teachers asking me to explain how difficult the arts is. But sadly, no matter how much I try and put a realistic spin on things, they still look at me and don't believe it.
Still, going into space would be freaking amazing. haha
I think it's hard for kids that age to realize the chances of failure are prolly greater than their chances of success. I got to talk with kids at a reserve school about career opportunities in engineering. Now this is a field where there are lucrative offers before graduation. That wasn't the biggest selling pint for the kids though....the very real possibility of an overseas expat position was. You on the other hand should prolly play down this part of your career.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: keeper on October 10, 2014, 02:25:57 PM
Post by: keeper on October 10, 2014, 02:25:57 PM
Morning Ghost,Quote from: "Keeper"
I think you are beautiful ac_flower
Piss on the hatersac_beating
Ohhh Keeper
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Renee on October 10, 2014, 02:30:01 PM
Post by: Renee on October 10, 2014, 02:30:01 PM
I've got to admit, I'm tired of the fat jokes. They were amusing at first, but now they're just irritating.Quote from: "ghost"
A certain mentally disturbed person here seems to think that he can counterattack anything I say by calling me 400 pounds. Of course if he had any real brains, he'd be able to actually hold a debate without resorting to the same old boring grade school insult.
I hear you Ghost, I get tired of the fat jokes too. But not because assholes resort to them but because they are generally so unimaginative and worn out. I've been fat all my life and I think I've heard just about all of them by now and many of them hundreds of times. Like you, I find them to be low brow, boring insults that were already stale back when I was in High School. It tells a very sad story when supposed adults still resort to schoolyard level name calling because they don't have the brains to respond with anything of substance. It only goes to show that far too many people in this world never mentally progress past the 8th grade.
As Shen already mentioned we are the same age and I have to say, you look fantastic. I applaud you for having the courage to put it all out there and use it as a big "fuck you" to the trolls and assholes that have been spreading rumors about you.
Well played.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 02:50:06 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 02:50:06 PM
Morning Ghost,Quote from: "Keeper"
I think you are beautiful ac_flower
Piss on the hatersac_beating
Ohhh Keeperac_wub Thank you very much for saying so, you are so kind and gentle I have no clue why we arnt married yet.ac_blush
acc_angry
Yep. It's a mystery alright. Why are you still single? lol
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 02:53:04 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 02:53:04 PM
I hear you Ghost, I get tired of the fat jokes too. But not because assholes resort to them but because they are generally so unimaginative and worn out. I've been fat all my life and I think I've heard just about all of them by now and many of them hundreds of times. Like you, I find them to be low brow, boring insults that were already stale back when I was in High School. It tells a very sad story when supposed adults still resort to schoolyard level name calling because they don't have the brains to respond with anything of substance. It only goes to show that far too many people in this world never mentally progress past the 8th grade.
As Shen already mentioned we are the same age and I have to say, you look fantastic. I applaud you for having the courage to put it all out there and use it as a big "fuck you" to the trolls and assholes that have been spreading rumors about you.
Well played.ac_drinks
JK Rowling said it best.
"Fat' is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her.
I mean, is 'fat' really the worst thing a human being can be? Is 'fat' worse than 'vindictive', 'jealous', 'shallow', 'vain', 'boring' or 'cruel'? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? I'm not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brain...
I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadn't seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? 'You've lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!'
'Well,' I said, slightly nonplussed, 'the last time you saw me I'd just had a baby.'
What I felt like saying was, 'I've produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren't either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?' But no – my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!
I've got two daughters who will have to make their way in this skinny-obsessed world, and it worries me, because I don't want them to be empty-headed, self-obsessed, emaciated clones; I'd rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before 'thin'. And frankly, I'd rather they didn't give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons."
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:05:49 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:05:49 PM
Morning Ghost,Quote from: "Keeper"
I think you are beautiful ac_flower
Piss on the hatersac_beating
Ohhh Keeperac_wub Thank you very much for saying so, you are so kind and gentle I have no clue why we arnt married yet.ac_blush
acc_angry
Jeezuz Keeps, you are the horniest toad on the entire interwebs.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 03:08:39 PM
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 03:08:39 PM
I know I'll be called out for making weigh comments as I have been doing it as of late to a poster. I've had struggles with my own weight issues which were more about perception than reality so I should make comment but I chose to anyway. People's weight is a real non-issue for me but I can't stand when people pretend they are something they aren't.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:11:18 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:11:18 PM
I've got to admit, I'm tired of the fat jokes. They were amusing at first, but now they're just irritating.Quote from: "ghost"
A certain mentally disturbed person here seems to think that he can counterattack anything I say by calling me 400 pounds. Of course if he had any real brains, he'd be able to actually hold a debate without resorting to the same old boring grade school insult.
I hear you Ghost, I get tired of the fat jokes too. But not because assholes resort to them but because they are generally so unimaginative and worn out. I've been fat all my life and I think I've heard just about all of them by now and many of them hundreds of times. Like you, I find them to be low brow, boring insults that were already stale back when I was in High School. It tells a very sad story when supposed adults still resort to schoolyard level name calling because they don't have the brains to respond with anything of substance. It only goes to show that far too many people in this world never mentally progress past the 8th grade.
As Shen already mentioned we are the same age and I have to say, you look fantastic. I applaud you for having the courage to put it all out there and use it as a big "fuck you" to the trolls and assholes that have been spreading rumors about you.
Well played.ac_drinks
All true Renee which is why I cannot post on VF without 2-3 rum mojitos in me. The lack of maturity is tough to read without the aid of alcohol. You may disagree, but the admin there has set the tone. If you are an adult and want to let your hair down and act like a retarded 10 year old, VF is the place for you.
Ghost,
Now that I think about it, you might want to consider deleting those pics. I regret posting pics, especially around that biatch Renee. She made fun of my ass.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 03:14:46 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 03:14:46 PM
I just think there are so many more important things in the world than making fun of someone for their weight.
We all come in different shapes and sizes. The real way to judge a person's character is to see how they treat others. Yes, I've made a few good cracks at people in the past, I can be an asshole with the best of them. But I don't believe in judging others for their looks. Stupidity, yes, but looks, no.
In the whole scheme of things, we will be remembered for the things we say and do. At my father's funeral, many strangers came up to me and told me how kind my Dad was. How he always had a smile for everyone. How friendly he was. That's how I'd rather be remembered.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 03:16:20 PM
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 03:16:20 PM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 03:17:49 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 03:17:49 PM
All true Renee which is why I cannot post on VF without 2-3 rum mojitos in me. The lack of maturity is tough to read without the aid of alcohol. You may disagree, but the admin there has set the tone. If you are an adult and want to let your hair down and act like a retarded 10 year old, VF is the place for you.
Ghost,
Now that I think about it, you might want to consider deleting those pics. I regret posting pics, especially around that biatch Renee. She made fun of my ass.acc_angry
I'm not worried. I'm in the public eye and there are a lot of pictures of myself on the internet. Lots of interviews too. Some of them are flattering, others make me want to curl up and cower. That's the sucky thing, you can't always control the images when you do events. Sadly, there are a bunch from when I had ankle surgery and was 40 pounds heavier.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:20:18 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:20:18 PM
All true Renee which is why I cannot post on VF without 2-3 rum mojitos in me. The lack of maturity is tough to read without the aid of alcohol. You may disagree, but the admin there has set the tone. If you are an adult and want to let your hair down and act like a retarded 10 year old, VF is the place for you.
Ghost,
Now that I think about it, you might want to consider deleting those pics. I regret posting pics, especially around that biatch Renee. She made fun of my ass.acc_angry
I'm not worried. I'm in the public eye and there are a lot of pictures of myself on the internet. Lots of interviews too. Some of them are flattering, others make me want to curl up and cower. That's the sucky thing, you can't always control the images when you do events. Sadly, there are a bunch from when I had ankle surgery and was 40 pounds heavier.
Yeah, I know it's quite a bit different for you. For anyone else though, they should NOT keep pics up very long.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 03:22:30 PM
Post by: ghost on October 10, 2014, 03:22:30 PM
Yeah, I know it's quite a bit different for you. For anyone else though, they should NOT keep pics up very long.
True. We all know how obsessive Eddie is. He's got a folder on his computer with everyone's pictures so he has something to whack off to every night.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:24:51 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 03:24:51 PM
Yeah, I know it's quite a bit different for you. For anyone else though, they should NOT keep pics up very long.
True. We all know how obsessive Eddie is. He's got a folder on his computer with everyone's pictures so he has something to whack off to every night.
I do NOT doubt this for one fucking second!!
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Renee on October 10, 2014, 04:16:40 PM
Post by: Renee on October 10, 2014, 04:16:40 PM
I hear you Ghost, I get tired of the fat jokes too. But not because assholes resort to them but because they are generally so unimaginative and worn out. I've been fat all my life and I think I've heard just about all of them by now and many of them hundreds of times. Like you, I find them to be low brow, boring insults that were already stale back when I was in High School. It tells a very sad story when supposed adults still resort to schoolyard level name calling because they don't have the brains to respond with anything of substance. It only goes to show that far too many people in this world never mentally progress past the 8th grade.
As Shen already mentioned we are the same age and I have to say, you look fantastic. I applaud you for having the courage to put it all out there and use it as a big "fuck you" to the trolls and assholes that have been spreading rumors about you.
Well played.ac_drinks
JK Rowling said it best.
"Fat' is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her.
I mean, is 'fat' really the worst thing a human being can be? Is 'fat' worse than 'vindictive', 'jealous', 'shallow', 'vain', 'boring' or 'cruel'? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? I'm not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brain...
I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadn't seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? 'You've lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!'
'Well,' I said, slightly nonplussed, 'the last time you saw me I'd just had a baby.'
What I felt like saying was, 'I've produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren't either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?' But no – my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!
I've got two daughters who will have to make their way in this skinny-obsessed world, and it worries me, because I don't want them to be empty-headed, self-obsessed, emaciated clones; I'd rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before 'thin'. And frankly, I'd rather they didn't give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons."
I learned a long time ago by being involved in the size acceptance community that "fat" is not the evil word that many would like us to believe that it is. In reality it is just another descriptor no different than thin, tall, short, etc. It is only in how we perceive and relate to the word that it becomes the derogatory insult. Unfortunately old habits and prejudicial attitudes die hard in a society where "thin" is the overriding qualifier for female beauty. The sad an inescapable realities of our society is that "fat" women are viewed as damaged goods, broken individuals and undeserving of equal treatment socially and economically. Historically these are perceptions based on stereotypes put forth by the media, the medical community the government and a whole host of other cultural entities. This is an inescapable truth and I don't see it getting any better any time soon.
The saddest part is that most of these perceptions are untrue. I really don't think anyone here thinks of me as broken or damaged anymore than the next person but if they were to meet me face to face without knowing who I am, I am willing to bet that most people here would view and treat me very differently. I'm not saying everyone would but I could almost name all the names of the individuals on these forums that would view me with the stereotypical perceptions that most people have toward fat women.
I too have daughters and I worry constantly as a parent that whether or not I did enough to instill a sense of self worth in them so that they do not fall into the appearance obsession trap. I pray all the time they will understand and accept the concept that who they are is much more than just a dress size or numbers on a scale. I especially worry about my oldest daughter in this. She is so much like me in appearance and genetic tendencies that it is frightening but she is much more sensitive than I am or ever was. I'm worry that for her, resisting the societal pressures to conform to an unrealistic body image will be especially hard.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 04:18:02 PM
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 04:18:02 PM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 04:35:21 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 04:35:21 PM
My daughter is so comfortable in her skin that it inspires me to be more comfortable in mine.Quote from: "Real Woman"
That's good, but not all of us are built that way. When I was a teen I had bad acne. This made me feel so self-conscious. We all know the comments; "pizza face", "connect the dots", "aids face", blah, blah, fucking blah. I tried every anti-acne product on the market and went to dermatologists, but the only real cure was getting older.
This was combined with being an immigrant kid with no siblings and awkward English. I really hated when people pulled their eyes back in front of me. I was not popular until my final year of high school when I started to grow a few curves.
The point I am making is that kids are cruel and if one is in any way different they WILL be ridiculed. I have long made my peace with my tormentors in school. When you are an adult and another adult makes comments about your appearance, nationality or the way someone talks we know that person is still stuck in grade 10 mode. They are truly pathetic.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 04:49:04 PM
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 04:49:04 PM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 04:57:23 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2014, 04:57:23 PM
Try being your own tormentor. You can't get away from that shit.Quote from: "Real Woman"
That is different RW and I cannot relate.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Renee on October 10, 2014, 05:00:34 PM
Post by: Renee on October 10, 2014, 05:00:34 PM
Try being your own tormentor. You can't get away from that shit.Quote from: "Real Woman"
A kind of truce can be made but "peace" for most in that situation is elusive.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 05:07:21 PM
Post by: RW on October 10, 2014, 05:07:21 PM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2014, 11:28:31 AM
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2014, 11:28:31 AM
I've got to admit, I'm tired of the fat jokes. They were amusing at first, but now they're just irritating.Quote from: "ghost"
A certain mentally disturbed person here seems to think that he can counterattack anything I say by calling me 400 pounds. Of course if he had any real brains, he'd be able to actually hold a debate without resorting to the same old boring grade school insult.
It's not like who I am is a secret. I was outted by another nutter ages ago.
So I'm going to post some pictures. Some of them can be found on my blog. Some are private. And there's even one without makeup!
First is my media picture. It's the one that's used more often than not at book signings. As you can see, the pic is a few years old from when my hair was longer.(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_8167-Rev_zps1aa6284d.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%20a6284d.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_8167-Rev_zps1aa6284d.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
This one was taken a few weeks ago. My hair is shorter now. Feel free to make fun of the haircut cause I don't particularly like it.(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2294_zpsa435189b.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%2035189b.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2294_zpsa435189b.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
One without makeup! OMG!(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2215_zpsd96347ac.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%206347ac.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2215_zpsd96347ac.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
And the grand finale. One taken about a month ago when I was at Yellowstone Park. Feel free to admire the cute puppy.(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2177_zps6975dd39.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%2075dd39.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2177_zps6975dd39.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
You are very pretty ghost.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Big Wave Dave on October 11, 2014, 01:48:58 PM
Post by: Big Wave Dave on October 11, 2014, 01:48:58 PM
I've got to admit, I'm tired of the fat jokes. They were amusing at first, but now they're just irritating.Quote from: "ghost"
A certain mentally disturbed person here seems to think that he can counterattack anything I say by calling me 400 pounds. Of course if he had any real brains, he'd be able to actually hold a debate without resorting to the same old boring grade school insult.
It's not like who I am is a secret. I was outted by another nutter ages ago.
So I'm going to post some pictures. Some of them can be found on my blog. Some are private. And there's even one without makeup!
First is my media picture. It's the one that's used more often than not at book signings. As you can see, the pic is a few years old from when my hair was longer.(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_8167-Rev_zps1aa6284d.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%20a6284d.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_8167-Rev_zps1aa6284d.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
This one was taken a few weeks ago. My hair is shorter now. Feel free to make fun of the haircut cause I don't particularly like it.(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2294_zpsa435189b.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%2035189b.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2294_zpsa435189b.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
One without makeup! OMG!(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2215_zpsd96347ac.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%206347ac.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2215_zpsd96347ac.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
And the grand finale. One taken about a month ago when I was at Yellowstone Park. Feel free to admire the cute puppy.(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2177_zps6975dd39.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll11%20...%2075dd39.jpg%22%3Ehttp://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll117/ghostofnothing/IMG_2177_zps6975dd39.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
A six out of ten at best. Sorry sweetie, you'll never get a ride on Big Dave's surfboard.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2014, 03:30:43 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2014, 03:30:43 PM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 11, 2014, 07:27:39 PM
Post by: ghost on October 11, 2014, 07:27:39 PM
^Yeah I'll bet ghostie will lose sleep over that. ac_rollseyesQuote from: "Shen Li"
Anyone who calls themselves 'Big' Dave obviously has a tiny penis.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2014, 08:09:21 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2014, 08:09:21 PM
^Yeah I'll bet ghostie will lose sleep over that. ac_rollseyesQuote from: "Shen Li"
The fucking choir said Amen!!
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: keeper on October 11, 2014, 11:01:50 PM
Post by: keeper on October 11, 2014, 11:01:50 PM
^Yeah I'll bet ghostie will lose sleep over that. ac_rollseyesQuote from: "Shen Li"
Anyone who calls themselves 'Big' Dave obviously has a tiny penis.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 12, 2014, 05:54:39 AM
Post by: Anonymous on October 12, 2014, 05:54:39 AM
^Yeah I'll bet ghostie will lose sleep over that. ac_rollseyesQuote from: "Shen Li"
Anyone who calls themselves 'Big' Dave obviously has a tiny penis.
Yep!!
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Obvious Li on October 13, 2014, 05:52:07 AM
Post by: Obvious Li on October 13, 2014, 05:52:07 AM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Gary Oak on October 13, 2014, 01:45:01 PM
Post by: Gary Oak on October 13, 2014, 01:45:01 PM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Obvious Li on October 13, 2014, 05:04:50 PM
Post by: Obvious Li on October 13, 2014, 05:04:50 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
i have seen a video of that 98 lb. chinese guy rogering you after he knocked you out...want me to post it...????
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 05:41:36 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 05:41:36 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
i have seen a video of that 98 lb. chinese guy rogering you after he knocked you out...want me to post it...????
Oh please don't Obvious Li.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Renee on October 13, 2014, 06:10:38 PM
Post by: Renee on October 13, 2014, 06:10:38 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
i have seen a video of that 98 lb. chinese guy rogering you after he knocked you out...want me to post it...????
If he doesn't want to see it; I sure do.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 06:17:25 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 06:17:25 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
i have seen a video of that 98 lb. chinese guy rogering you after he knocked you out...want me to post it...????
If he doesn't want to see it; I sure do.ac_toofunny
I never heard the word
I assumed it was sexual and I was right.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 07:53:17 PM
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 07:53:17 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
No, you haven't because such a video doesn't exist. There is one interview I did three years ago where I was forty pounds heavier than I am now. That was about six months after having ankle surgery and I wasn't in my best shape.
I will admit, I was sitting in a horrid chair and the camera wasn't positioned well, and I did look bigger than I was. I was mortified. haha
I will tell you guys a secret tho. Gary Oak went over to Goodreads and tried to give my books bad reviews. It wasn't hard to figure out it was him. I'll give you all hints. He writes in a very specific way that's easy to recognize. Also, if you're going to try and slam YA books, it helps if you don't praise a bunch of non-fiction books first. Books that you've mentioned on the Memebee forum.
For the record, the reviews were removed for being biased and trolling.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:06:38 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:06:38 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
No, you haven't because such a video doesn't exist. There is one interview I did three years ago where I was forty pounds heavier than I am now. That was about six months after having ankle surgery and I wasn't in my best shape.
I will admit, I was sitting in a horrid chair and the camera wasn't positioned well, and I did look bigger than I was. I was mortified. haha
I will tell you guys a secret tho.Gary Oak went over to Goodreads and tried to give my books bad reviews.It wasn't hard to figure out it was him. I'll give you all hints. He writes in a very specific way that's easy to recognize. Also, if you're going to try and slam YA books, it helps if you don't praise a bunch of non-fiction books first. Books that you've mentioned on the Memebee forum.
For the record, the reviews were removed for being biased and trolling.
He did that ghost?
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 08:08:56 PM
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 08:08:56 PM
He did that ghost?
ac_wot
He sure did.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:10:50 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:10:50 PM
He did that ghost?
ac_wot
He sure did.
That crosses the line in my opinion from immature trolling to being very cruel.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 08:18:24 PM
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 08:18:24 PM
I laughed it off at the time and sent an email to the Goodreads team. Like I said, they agreed it was trolling and removed the reviews.
Trust me, Edward tried to do far worse to me on youtube. He posted comments saying I was a pedophile and wanted to gas jews. That's why I had to get the police involved with him.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:22:43 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:22:43 PM
I wouldn't call it cruel as much as sour grapes.Quote from: "ghost"
I laughed it off at the time and sent an email to the Goodreads team. Like I said, they agreed it was trolling and removed the reviews.
Trust me, Edward tried to do far worse to me on youtube.He posted comments saying I was a pedophile and wanted to gas jews. That's why I had to get the police involved with him.
I am not condoning Gary Oak's immaturity, but I have to wonder about the mental health of anyone who would do what Edward did.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 08:26:17 PM
Post by: ghost on October 13, 2014, 08:26:17 PM
I wouldn't call it cruel as much as sour grapes.Quote from: "ghost"
I laughed it off at the time and sent an email to the Goodreads team. Like I said, they agreed it was trolling and removed the reviews.
Trust me, Edward tried to do far worse to me on youtube.He posted comments saying I was a pedophile and wanted to gas jews. That's why I had to get the police involved with him.
I am not condoning Gary Oak's immaturity, but I have to wonder about the mental health of anyone who would do what Edward did.
Exactly. What Gary did was immature. What Eddie did is a restraining order waiting to happen.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:35:41 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 08:35:41 PM
I wouldn't call it cruel as much as sour grapes.Quote from: "ghost"
I laughed it off at the time and sent an email to the Goodreads team. Like I said, they agreed it was trolling and removed the reviews.
Trust me, Edward tried to do far worse to me on youtube.He posted comments saying I was a pedophile and wanted to gas jews. That's why I had to get the police involved with him.
I am not condoning Gary Oak's immaturity, but I have to wonder about the mental health of anyone who would do what Edward did.
Exactly. What Gary did was immature. What Eddie did is a restraining order waiting to happen.
Edward posted here for a while until Obvious Li permanently banned him..
He would register again under a new handle and post pornography until the new handle was also banned.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 11:18:13 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 11:18:13 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
No, you haven't because such a video doesn't exist. There is one interview I did three years ago where I was forty pounds heavier than I am now. That was about six months after having ankle surgery and I wasn't in my best shape.
I will admit, I was sitting in a horrid chair and the camera wasn't positioned well, and I did look bigger than I was. I was mortified. haha
I will tell you guys a secret tho. Gary Oak went over to Goodreads and tried to give my books bad reviews. It wasn't hard to figure out it was him. I'll give you all hints. He writes in a very specific way that's easy to recognize. Also, if you're going to try and slam YA books, it helps if you don't praise a bunch of non-fiction books first. Books that you've mentioned on the Memebee forum.
For the record, the reviews were removed for being biased and trolling.
Joak probably thinks you are a Chinese spy.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 11:53:58 PM
Post by: Anonymous on October 13, 2014, 11:53:58 PM
I have seen a video of ghost and she weighs 400 lbs.Quote from: "Gary Oak"ac_cool ac_drinks ac_lmfao
No, you haven't because such a video doesn't exist. There is one interview I did three years ago where I was forty pounds heavier than I am now. That was about six months after having ankle surgery and I wasn't in my best shape.
I will admit, I was sitting in a horrid chair and the camera wasn't positioned well, and I did look bigger than I was. I was mortified. haha
I will tell you guys a secret tho. Gary Oak went over to Goodreads and tried to give my books bad reviews. It wasn't hard to figure out it was him. I'll give you all hints. He writes in a very specific way that's easy to recognize. Also, if you're going to try and slam YA books, it helps if you don't praise a bunch of non-fiction books first. Books that you've mentioned on the Memebee forum.
For the record, the reviews were removed for being biased and trolling.
I have little tolerance for anyone that fucks with another poster's livelihood.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Chickenfeets on October 14, 2014, 11:49:55 PM
Post by: Chickenfeets on October 14, 2014, 11:49:55 PM
I like 'em better than the one on the book jackets.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 15, 2014, 10:00:10 AM
Post by: Anonymous on October 15, 2014, 10:00:10 AM
Wow! Sweet pix, Ghost!Quote from: "Chickenfeets"ac_cool
I like 'em better than the one on the book jackets.
I should buy her book for my daughter.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Chickenfeets on October 15, 2014, 10:18:33 AM
Post by: Chickenfeets on October 15, 2014, 10:18:33 AM
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 16, 2014, 10:06:09 AM
Post by: Anonymous on October 16, 2014, 10:06:09 AM
The reads are worth it.Quote from: "Chickenfeets"ac_smile
It is age appropriate, so maybe I will buy my daughter a copy.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: ghost on October 17, 2014, 03:39:28 AM
Post by: ghost on October 17, 2014, 03:39:28 AM
The reads are worth it.Quote from: "Chickenfeets"ac_smile
It is age appropriate, so maybe I will buy my daughter a copy.
I'd suggest only if she likes scary books. My first two novels are considered YA horror. The third one is paranormal.
Title: Re: Bored of the stereotype
Post by: Anonymous on October 17, 2014, 09:08:35 AM
Post by: Anonymous on October 17, 2014, 09:08:35 AM
The reads are worth it.Quote from: "Chickenfeets"ac_smile
It is age appropriate, so maybe I will buy my daughter a copy.
I'd suggest only if she likes scary books. My first two novels are considered YA horror. The third one is paranormal.
Thanks for letting me know ghost..
I want her to read more and encourage her creativity.