Title: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 08, 2015, 11:09:25 PM
Post by: Anonymous on June 08, 2015, 11:09:25 PM
She told me that her nephew is 21 years old, does not go to university or have a job and spends almost every hour in self confinement in his bedroom..
He has never had a part time job, does not have a driver's license, no friends, has no ambition to do anything and has spent the three years since he graduated high school doing nothing..
He will not even come out of his bedroom to help his parents around the house..
My coworker told me he was an honor student in high school and her sister had high hopes for her son..
Has anyone ever known of anyone like this?
It seems so very sad.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 12:14:13 AM
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 12:14:13 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 12:30:46 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 12:30:46 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 12:31:19 AM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 12:31:19 AM
Sounds like depression and a pretty severe case at that.Quote from: "Renee"
It does seem severe Renee..
An addiction to video games too.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 12:33:28 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 12:33:28 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 12:38:31 AM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 12:38:31 AM
Has he been shy or liked being alone his whole life? Or is this something new or progressed? Could a life event thrown him for a loop? If the parents can talk to him and at least find out if anything is bothering him, that's a start.Quote from: "Annie"
Our son, when he was 15 had a breakdown (I had just told the family about my brain tumor, 3 months after my Dad passed away from brain cancer) He became secluded and mopey. For the next couple years he seemed shy and alone, wouldn't go to school, wouldn't get another job (he quit his paper route) It was a long difficult few years but we never gave up or got angry with him. He was in a depressive funk and was stuck. We got him all sorts of counselling that did help a bit but I think what worked the best was family communication.
I took him out every Sunday just he and I and we went to KFC for lunch to have a Mom and Son Day. It made a huge difference. We talked about everything. After just a couple times he opened up and broke down crying, he was just so scared. He told me he was scared to lose us and that he had been bullied at school. We got him into another high school and got his grade 12 only 1 year later than he should have.
He's now 23, has 2 jobs, living on his own with his GF and planning more secondary education courses.
What she has told me is that her nephew, who is an only child by the way, has been very spoiled..
He did not become withdrawn and lose interest in everything until he was in high school.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 12:50:02 AM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 12:50:02 AM
Could he be addicted to gaming? Is there help for people with that type of addiction? I doubt there is though.Quote from: "Annie"
There is help for people addicted to gaming.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 01:48:42 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 01:48:42 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 03:57:15 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 03:57:15 AM
Had to drag some of these mamas boys even to shower in the army..
Cant believe these people are too scared to change their gear to clean ones every once in a while.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:03:09 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:03:09 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:09:03 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:09:03 AM
You know nothing Odi.Quote from: "Annie"
Doesnt she say more like "nuthing"..
You know nuthing Jon Snow.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:12:49 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:12:49 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:22:56 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:22:56 AM
You know nothing John Snow..nope it's "nothing"Quote from: "Annie"
She pronounces it funnily..
I have had trouble understanding a british person...
I just started copying their accent and in time begun to understand it.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:24:38 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:24:38 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:26:26 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:26:26 AM
It's a scottish accentQuote from: "Annie"ac_smile that's why
Good morrrning to you lassie..
Thats scottish accent.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:35:40 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:35:40 AM
Its a realm where they talk about laying code... Not laying pipe.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:36:23 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 04:36:23 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:39:41 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:39:41 AM
Willie from the simpsons..
William Wallace from braveheart.
Ygritte doesnt speak like willie.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 05:11:47 AM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 05:11:47 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 06:54:10 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 06:54:10 AM
There really is? That's awesome, I didn't know that. Maybe he would be willing to seek help.Quote from: "Annie"
Some guys have played world of warcraft several days straight and then died.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 08:53:56 AM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 08:53:56 AM
That doesn't surprise anyone, but Annie helping him do that does,
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 08:57:14 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 08:57:14 AM
Another thread ruined by Odinson..Quote from: "Fashionista"
That doesn't surprise anyone, but Annie helping him do that does,
ac_unsure
I answered it..
Every thread gets derailed..
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 09:00:40 AM
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 09:00:40 AM
Another thread ruined by Odinson..Quote from: "Fashionista"
That doesn't surprise anyone, but Annie helping him do that does,
ac_unsure
I don't think she is helping him. Her responses are not intended to throw the thread off track. Odie on the other hand, is doing his usual thing......thread bombing.
I used to get caught up in responding to him at one time as well, until I figured out what he is and what he is doing.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:06:02 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:06:02 AM
The parents need to push their baby out...
Should I have had create a whole new thread about Ygrittes accent?
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 09:13:38 AM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 09:13:38 AM
Another thread ruined by Odinson..Quote from: "Fashionista"
That doesn't surprise anyone, but Annie helping him do that does,
ac_unsure
I don't think she is helping him. Her responses are not intended to throw the thread off track. Odie on the other hand, is doing his usual thing......thread bombing.
I used to get caught up in responding to him at one time as well, until I figured out what he is and what he is doing.
I know Annie is not trying to throw the thread off track like Odinson is..
I am sorry that it seemed like that is what I was implying.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 09:15:42 AM
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 09:15:42 AM
I answered it..Quote from: "Odinson"
The parents need to push their baby out...
Should I have had create a whole new thread about Ygrittes accent?
Do you not understand what you are doing? Do you need help?
If Renee creates a thread about nut pecan ice cream you dont keep going on and on about people who eat ice cream in jail and that you used to put ice cream on you wounds when you were in the war. DO YOU GET IT.
ITS ABOUT PECAN ICE CREAM!!!!!! you stupid fuck.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:21:50 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:21:50 AM
If the thread name is that then I can speak about how you can use it... Its not derailing it.
Just saying.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 09:23:51 AM
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 09:23:51 AM
Well well well.Quote from: "Odinson"
If the thread name is that then I can speak about how you can use it... Its not derailing it.
Just saying.
stop thread bombing thats all im saying, why is that so hard for you to understand
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:25:10 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:25:10 AM
Well well well.Quote from: "Odinson"
If the thread name is that then I can speak about how you can use it... Its not derailing it.
Just saying.
stop thread bombing thats all im saying, why is that so hard for you to understand
My mind wanders off after I´ve answered it.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 09:30:19 AM
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 09:30:19 AM
Well well well.Quote from: "Odinson"
If the thread name is that then I can speak about how you can use it... Its not derailing it.
Just saying.
stop thread bombing thats all im saying, why is that so hard for you to understand
My mind wanders off after I´ve answered it.
Then create your own thread and wonder till you go blue in the face.
i promise no one will bother you
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:35:21 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:35:21 AM
Bound to get derailed after a few posts.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 09:43:42 AM
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 09:43:42 AM
I answered it..Quote from: "Odinson"
The parents need to push their baby out...
Should I have had create a whole new thread about Ygrittes accent?
Do you not understand what you are doing? Do you need help?
If Renee creates a thread about nut pecan ice cream you dont keep going on and on about people who eat ice cream in jail and that you used to put ice cream on you wounds when you were in the war. DO YOU GET IT.
ITS ABOUT PECAN ICE CREAM!!!!!! you stupid fuck.
Sure, assume the chubby chick is going to start a thread about ice cream. Nice going, way to stereotype.
Keeps you seem a little tense, you probably need a good back rub or maybe a small Asian woman to walk on your back?
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:48:44 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 09:48:44 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 09:59:38 AM
Post by: Renee on June 09, 2015, 09:59:38 AM
Now that you mentioned small asian women...Quote from: "Odinson"
Yeah, now that I mentioned a small Asian woman, can we get Fash's thread back on track?
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 10:10:27 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 10:10:27 AM
The parents should cut the cord and smoke him out.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 11:39:07 AM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 11:39:07 AM
Hikikomori (ひきこもり or 引き籠もり Hikikomori?, literally "pulling inward, being confined", i.e., "acute social withdrawal") is a Japanese term to refer to the phenomenon of reclusive adolescents or adults who withdraw from social life, often seeking extreme degrees of isolation and confinement. The term hikikomori refers to both the sociological phenomenon in general as well as to people belonging to this societal group. Hikikomori have been described as recluses, loners, or "modern-day hermits."[1]Quote
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 03:52:12 PM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 03:52:12 PM
Another thread ruined by Odinson..Quote from: "Fashionista"
That doesn't surprise anyone, but Annie helping him do that does,
ac_unsure
I was on track for a little bit at the beginning though
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:04:07 PM
Post by: Odinson on June 09, 2015, 04:04:07 PM
Annie is the brains of this organization.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 05:17:54 PM
Post by: keeper on June 09, 2015, 05:17:54 PM
I answered it..Quote from: "Odinson"
The parents need to push their baby out...
Should I have had create a whole new thread about Ygrittes accent?
Do you not understand what you are doing? Do you need help?
If Renee creates a thread about nut pecan ice cream you dont keep going on and on about people who eat ice cream in jail and that you used to put ice cream on you wounds when you were in the war. DO YOU GET IT.
ITS ABOUT PECAN ICE CREAM!!!!!! you stupid fuck.
Sure, assume the chubby chick is going to start a thread about ice cream. Nice going, way to stereotype.ac_toofunny
Keeps you seem a little tense, you probably need a good back rub or maybe a small Asian woman to walk on your back?ac_biggrin
I only used your name because OD is scared shitless of you and i know he will TRY and pay attention..the icecream i used cause of these damn ads lol, and i am tense!!! i thought you were going to offer me a back rub, you tease!!! ac_tongue
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 08:14:27 PM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 08:14:27 PM
This kid sounds like a classic case of hikikomori. From Wiki;Quote from: "Shen Li"Hikikomori (ひきこもり or 引き籠もり Hikikomori?, literally "pulling inward, being confined", i.e., "acute social withdrawal") is a Japanese term to refer to the phenomenon of reclusive adolescents or adults who withdraw from social life, often seeking extreme degrees of isolation and confinement. The term hikikomori refers to both the sociological phenomenon in general as well as to people belonging to this societal group. Hikikomori have been described as recluses, loners, or "modern-day hermits."[1]Quote(//%3C/s%3E%3CURL%20url=%22http://www.insostanza.it/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/2777019020_0d67348465_o-506x380.jpg%22%3E%3CLINK_TEXT%20text=%22http://www.insostanza.it/wp-content/upl%20...%2006x380.jpg%22%3Ehttp://www.insostanza.it/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/2777019020_0d67348465_o-506x380.jpg%3C/LINK_TEXT%3E%3C/URL%3E%3Ce%3E)
Oh yes, thank you for posting this.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: @realAzhyaAryola on June 09, 2015, 09:04:13 PM
Post by: @realAzhyaAryola on June 09, 2015, 09:04:13 PM
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I can't stand grown people who don't make their beds. I make my bed every single day and tightly around the edges like military style. I should have been in the military. It was too late when I realized I wanted to sign up. I was 40+.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 09:13:00 PM
Post by: Anonymous on June 09, 2015, 09:13:00 PM
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I can't stand grown people who don't make their beds. I make my bed every single day and tightly around the edges like military style. I should have been in the military. It was too late when I realized I wanted to sign up. I was 40+.
I don't know if he is a match for the army, but some discipline is necessary/
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 11:17:26 PM
Post by: Annie on June 09, 2015, 11:17:26 PM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 02:31:45 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 02:31:45 AM
Every row needs to have the same count of squares in it..
When you fold it under the pillow, the square rows in the folding section need to match the ones in the not folded section... Colours need to match too.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 02:47:59 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 02:47:59 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 05:22:22 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 05:22:22 AM
And if you're a bad boy you have to use a toothbrush to scrub the bathroom clean......Quote from: "Annie"
One of us came to inspect the bunks... Bunk that was utterly out of order, got exploded...
That shit continued for aslong as it took for every bunk to pass.
Utterly out of order ment that theres not an equal number of squares going from the center of the bed to each sides of the bed.
Scrubbing toilets is not even bad punishment.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 06:24:45 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 06:24:45 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 06:27:31 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 06:27:31 AM
You were there? No wonder you're hard coreQuote from: "Annie"
What...
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 06:32:19 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 06:32:19 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 06:34:16 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 06:34:16 AM
wait..what...Quote from: "Annie"
Woot?
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 06:35:03 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 06:35:03 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 06:41:44 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 06:41:44 AM
When you remove the bed cover, it has to be folded into a perfect 30x30cm square.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:05:28 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:05:28 AM
I might stare Azhya or Annie for awhile and see if they can hold their pokerface.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:08:24 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:08:24 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:14:43 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:14:43 AM
When I was 18 I wanted to join the peace corps or go to college. I chose college. I regret that nowQuote from: "Annie"
Peacecorps is like humanitariaism. Seems like an adventure.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:31:37 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:31:37 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:40:41 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:40:41 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:44:48 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:44:48 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:46:00 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 07:46:00 AM
That isn't Peace CorpsQuote from: "Annie"acc_angry
Peace corps is kinda like churches help..
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:50:29 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 07:50:29 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 08:02:39 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 08:02:39 AM
I have no connection to religion but I've always wanted to help others, human and animalQuote from: "Annie"
That is sweet.
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 08:15:16 AM
Post by: Annie on June 10, 2015, 08:15:16 AM
Title: Re: A strange young man
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 08:21:10 AM
Post by: Odinson on June 10, 2015, 08:21:10 AM
Some chick can do the humanitarian thing.