You are sick and you snap at a loved one. Later you apologize and say, "Sorry I was sick." Are you pathetic for blaming your illness or should your loved one be sympathetic and understanding because you are sick?
It's not an either / or. Sick, down, anxious hurting etc. all can make us temporarily slip with loved ones or others. A "Sorry, I was sick and was reacting to my bad feelings " is a correct approach.
At the same time, loved ones are not perfect either and can react poorly in which case they could also apologize for overreacting
There is nothing wrong with putting a reason to ones actions but "Sorry" is always the key word
We all are humans, not saints
Well, If you are "sick" your loved one would know this already and you shouldn't have to say "im sorry" because of it.
I think its all a matter of communication and understanding on both parts.
No communication both parties will get hurt.
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You already know my feelings on this. That being said, both cc and Keeper covered the situation pretty well.
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I think its all a matter of communication and understanding on both parts.
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I lose my temper and snap on a regular basis. Quickly get the anger out of my system and move on. No big deal.
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I lose my temper and snap on a regular basis. Quickly get the anger out of my system and move on. No big deal.
Don't the people around you get tired of being your personal punching bag/stress ball?
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I lose my temper and snap on a regular basis. Quickly get the anger out of my system and move on. No big deal.
Don't the people around you get tired of being your personal punching bag/stress ball?
I don't care what they think. :001_tongue:
Good attitude.
That's our Shen, making friends wherever she goes...just making friends. ac_lmfao
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We all have bad days. I don't think any of us are perfect. Perfect can be boringly predictable.
"To err is human; to forgive, divine."
What if you are really sick and have a lot of bad days? How far does understanding reach?
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With a stranger it would vary based on their level of empathy. With a partner, I think there would be some slack administered from both sides that won't automatically warrant instant forgiveness, but unless you know them as the type to hold grudges to the grave, most people are a little more emotionally elastic than wishing misfortune on another just because they got yelled at.
Maybe you're suggesting that this state of affairs surfaced after the relationship reached it's prime and you fear they might be having second thoughts about whether they feel it's worth continuing due to hints you might have picked up on. Is it something you care to elaborate on with us?
I realize that sharing one's feelings isn't always a pleasant experience, especially with the risk of outsiders with unjust negative criticisms. Take your time to think it over. I'll definitely understand if you prefer to lave it as already stated.
I'm just not feeling well. That's all.
RW I totally understand where you're coming from. My hubby feels sick when he has a Lupus flare up and that seems to be more often than not. He tends to get cranky and angry easier. I just remain calm and change a subject or he sits and pouts in his man cave and we chat on facebook. I snapped at a receptionist a while ago on the phone. I called her back the next morning and apologized. I was lucky she understood I was extremely stressed and frustrated trying to get an oral surgeon. You have family that love and understands you, even though you feel bad about snapping at them, they'll forgive you. ac_smile
I feel for you and your husband. Lupus is something that happens to both of you.
Even when just one person in a household is battling an illness, the whole family takes it on.
Too familiar with that feeling
Thank gawd for understanding family and thank gawd for understanding friends online.
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I have some amazing online friends ac_smile
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You guys are awesome online friends. I feel bad when I can't do more than send an internet hug ac_crying
That's all we need sometimes :)
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Thanks Annie.
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