Did you receive more gifts at X-mas time/birthdays etc out of guilt? The reason I ask is that I had to make two trips from Daddy's house yesterday because he bought so many toys and gifts for my son. I couldn't believe it.
Yep. Double the gifts because we had two Christmases but tons of gifts at each Christmas. We were spoiled because of guilt.
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Ah the Disney parent syndrome.
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I have seen it myself RW and I think it is sad....and I'm not judging.
It's not as sad as you may think, Fash. People move on and just do the best they can with the situation at hand. Life goes on.
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As RW says kids are spoiled because of guilt..
But, yes the parents do the best they can.
I don't know what it's like for very young kids though.
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From what I have personally seen, there is a lot of guilt gifts.
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I can be as sad as people think. My parents split when I was 4 and my dad left town when I was 8. No toys or gifts can make up for losing being with a parent every day.
My favourite Christmas that I remember having was when I was 13 and my dad spent Christmas morning at our house with all of us (including mom). I don't remember the gifts given, I just remember we were all there as a family.
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I can be as sad as people think. My parents split when I was 4 and my dad left town when I was 8. No toys or gifts can make up for losing being with a parent every day.
That seems sad to me, but my heart grows when I read this story.
I think it affects the very young and will make them sad but I know folks who were older when their parents split and they tell me they are just glad there are no more fighting and arguing and all seem to have adjusted to their new situations.
I don't really remember my parents fighting. Growing up, I'm sure my parents were ill suited but I didn't see it first hand as a kid.
What?? That guilt gift thing happens when the kids are small and dont understand..
Grown up kids understand the situation.
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That's good.
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Grown up kids understand the situation.
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Grown up kids understand the situation.
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Just saying that its usually not like OP described.
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Grown up kids understand the situation.
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Just saying that its usually not like OP described.
Are your parents divorced Odinson?
We still get guilt gifts as grown ups.
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Grown up kids understand the situation.
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Just saying that its usually not like OP described.
Are your parents divorced Odinson?
No. They sort of "re-married" summer 2014.
I just know the situation.. The psychology of it.
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Grown up kids understand the situation.
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Just saying that its usually not like OP described.
Are your parents divorced Odinson?
No. They sort of "re-married" summer 2014.
I just know the situation.. The psychology of it.
I see and thank you.
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Really?? The guilt is for life.
It has been in my case.
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My Daddy over did it with the gifts. I don't want my son to expect that every year.
Man I didnt receive many christmas gifts... Maybe 1 gift and the other being clothes.
Rich people...
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My Daddy over did it with the gifts. I don't want my son to expect that every year.
Have a talk with Daddy about over doing it. I had to have one with my dad about not telling my kids if they want something they are supposed to just call him and ask. That wasn't a smart offer to make.
Well...
Explains a lot...
Spoiled brats.
No knowledge of the real world.
They are 10 years old ya tool. Of course they don't have knowledge of the real world.
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My Daddy over did it with the gifts. I don't want my son to expect that every year.
Have a talk with Daddy about over doing it. I had to have one with my dad about not telling my kids if they want something they are supposed to just call him and ask. That wasn't a smart offer to make.
That's not good at all.
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"We still get guilt gifts as grown ups."
Explain.
I taught my dad a lesson on that one.
My son called him and asked him for a scooter that cost $180. My dad agreed but my son had to "earn it" by doing a set of chores around the house. So my son did the chores and got his scooter. My daughter was given a credit for $180 and had to do chores to earn it, which she did. So I called my dad up about her gift. This is how it went:
Dad: Yeah...
Me: Well she figured out that a kitten costs $90 at the SPCA and she figures with $180 she can get two of them.
Dad: Yeah...
Me: We already have two cats and we aren't going to have any more. She is really excited that she can get these two kittens now so you are going to have to tell her no and she's going to cry her little heart out. (My daughter didn't actually want any kittens.)
Dad: I'm not telling her no! You have to tell her no!
Me: I'm sorry Dad but this was your offer so you are going to be the one who gives her the bad news.
Dad: Oh Jesus. Now what am I going to? I don't want to upset her.
Me: And this is why we don't make offers like this to 10 year olds.
Dad: Yeah....
Me: Oh and she doesn't actually want kittens. I just wanted to teach you a lesson.
Dad: You little shit!
hahahaha
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My son called him and asked him for a scooter that cost $180. My dad agreed but my son had to "earn it" by doing a set of chores around the house. So my son did the chores and got his scooter. My daughter was given a credit for $180 and had to do chores to earn it, which she did. So I called my dad up about her gift. This is how it went:
Dad: Yeah...
Me: Well she figured out that a kitten costs $90 at the SPCA and she figures with $180 she can get two of them.
Dad: Yeah...
Me: We already have two cats and we aren't going to have any more. She is really excited that she can get these two kittens now so you are going to have to tell her no and she's going to cry her little heart out. (My daughter didn't actually want any kittens.)
Dad: I'm not telling her no! You have to tell her no!
Me: I'm sorry Dad but this was your offer so you are going to be the one who gives her the bad news.
Dad: Oh Jesus. Now what am I going to? I don't want to upset her.
Me: And this is why we don't make offers like this to 10 year olds.
Dad: Yeah....
Me: Oh and she doesn't actually want kittens. I just wanted to teach you a lesson.
Dad: You little shit!
hahahaha
You made your point well RW..
I never had to worry myself that my parents would spoil my children because they couldn't afford to do that.
Could I get the full allowance to post here?
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Not at this time.
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Not yet.
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My son called him and asked him for a scooter that cost $180. My dad agreed but my son had to "earn it" by doing a set of chores around the house. So my son did the chores and got his scooter. My daughter was given a credit for $180 and had to do chores to earn it, which she did. So I called my dad up about her gift. This is how it went:
Dad: Yeah...
Me: Well she figured out that a kitten costs $90 at the SPCA and she figures with $180 she can get two of them.
Dad: Yeah...
Me: We already have two cats and we aren't going to have any more. She is really excited that she can get these two kittens now so you are going to have to tell her no and she's going to cry her little heart out. (My daughter didn't actually want any kittens.)
Dad: I'm not telling her no! You have to tell her no!
Me: I'm sorry Dad but this was your offer so you are going to be the one who gives her the bad news.
Dad: Oh Jesus. Now what am I going to? I don't want to upset her.
Me: And this is why we don't make offers like this to 10 year olds.
Dad: Yeah....
Me: Oh and she doesn't actually want kittens. I just wanted to teach you a lesson.
Dad: You little shit!
hahahaha
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Not at this time.
Excuse me but you tolerance level doesnt seem to be like that of a lumberjacks.
If I had my way, you wouldn't be here at all.
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And why is that?
Because of the rape thing?
Please explain.
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Not at this time.
Excuse me but you tolerance level doesnt seem to be like that of a lumberjacks.
You say some nonsensical things..
I have never thought of lumberjacks as being more or less tolerant than a secretary or an electrician.
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Not at this time.
Excuse me but you tolerance level doesnt seem to be like that of a lumberjacks.
You say some nonsensical things..
I have never thought of lumberjacks as being more or less tolerant than a secretary or an electrician.
I´m sorry if it´s confusing fashie...
I understand...
I.. think past posts, present and ahead... All together..
The result might be confusing...
I dont mean to assault you.