Starting to think you're actually not a troll, which is scary. I wasn't really soliciting your advice but in response, but I think you're confused about my original post. I don't agree with your assertion that asians are in general more feminine - I think your assertion is complete bullshit. I know we're not less masculine but after hearing this same crap my whole life from racists like you, well, that ignorance over the years seeps in and lingers. So when I hear the same old racist comments again it kinda triggers those bad memories and I get in a funk.
To be clear, I think you are spectacularly ignorant of your own internalized racism and that your suspicions of fellow Asian guys are nothing more than vain and grandiose fantasies supporting your delusions of superiority for dating out.
Kala, try to imagine your disappointment when your half-white son comes out and he looks like you. What happens when he grows up and kids at school are calling him a tiny dicked wuss because he's your asian son? Are you gonna tell him that's it's just a fact of life, that he's less masculine because he's asian?