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The Flea Trap / Re: Interracial Relationships
January 14, 2013, 12:49:48 AM
As a matter of fact, I am 37 and I am a college professor so yes, I do consider myself educated. However I also learn new things every day and I don't consider myself over-educated in any ways as I learn a great deal from my students.   If you were to read my posts again you will see that I was trying to "challenge" some concept or ideas. My posts were not meant to send anyone "flaming" as I was trying to convey that racism is not always well defined or understood due to cultural differences and interpretation of a given language/sentence.



Shen Li,

Sorry but I when read your posts it just seems that you are bulling people trying to lower them by criticizing their physical appearance, background or sexual preferences. There are better ways to share ideas with people without sounding so hateful.



Fashionista,

In regards to making a first impression, I am sorry but I didn't make a post to make an impression on anyone, I posted based on the subject matter that was being discussed and I didn't think that anyone would even care about where I come from or what I do for a living but thank you for telling me this.
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The Flea Trap / Re: Interracial Relationships
January 14, 2013, 12:18:34 AM
Dear Fashionista,



Thanks for the comment, my posting was just based on what I was reading in the forum and I was trying to offer a different point of view. I never assumed that anyone in this forum was "abnormal".
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The Flea Trap / Re: Interracial Relationships
January 14, 2013, 12:13:05 AM
Shen Li,

I was not complaining about the name of the forum, I was trying to make people think about cultural differences and that what is OKAY for some people might be misconstrued by others, this was just an EXAMPLE. For whatever reason you seem to see just negative comments in pretty much anything anyone is sharing.  Being on a forum is about exchanging ideas, concepts, experiences not about constantly criticizing someone for their background, sexual preferences or experiences.



It seems that many of the postings are beyond your basic understanding and unfortunately there are just so many ways you can try to explain something to someone. I believe the correct expression I should be using to categorize you would be "blockhead" . Unfortunately, it seems that your lack of education (maybe due to your age and/or your inability to further your studies) is not allowing you to see things in a different way or try to understand what someone else is trying to say without the use of profanities or making comments like "ridiculously stupid". I don't think you understood anything about my posts but at the same time, you somewhat proved my point so I have to thank you for that in addition to cultural differences I should have pointed out "Education".
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The Flea Trap / Re: Interracial Relationships
January 13, 2013, 11:27:07 PM
It really seems that some people have a difficulty understanding very basic concept or really accept different ideas. I really don't see how anything I posted was silly it was simply a way to comment and show that people can ready what is posted online in various different ways.



I never said that anyone on this forum was "racist" I was trying to show that "Asian Canadian Forum" could be miscontrued and misunderstood by many, which well was just confirmed with all the negative comments I received on this post.



 I was hoping that my post would be understood, I was wrong. "If posts are really about 50% non Asian, so we certainly don't discriminate." Then why would this just not be a forum labeled as "Canadian Forum". It's one thing to post about non Asian, it's another to open the discussion to everyone. Again, sorry but seems my point was totally missed..



If I was to create a forum labeled "Caucasian Canadian Forum" would anyone here consider that Asian comments would not be welcomed?  Again, I think everyone can read things in a different way based on background, culture and possibly religion. This require a certain level of sensitivity that some people may not be able to understand or even realize.



Shen Li,

Sorry but you totally missed the point.... there is really no "law" to be followed.

If someone was to create a completely racist forum (and I am sure some of them exist out there) unfortunately they would not be breaking any laws in many countries. If that was the case many racist groups would no longer exist or would all be in jail by now...



"The point I am making is that everyone is entitled to their opinion and some people may indeed make some comments that can be innapropriate or inadequate without even realizing it."

I am not sure why you think what I said is so wrong or innapropriate?  Everyone can understand or read things in different ways, it's also a question of interpretation... so.. didn't you just prove my point?



In regards to " "manwhore" does not violate Canadian law. Jeesh, where the f*ck are you posting from, Iran? "

First off, I really don't think that any insults are needed, so what if I am posting from Iran? Is that a problem? Iraniens don't have the right to post? Aren't you stereotyping? (seems it can happen to everyone huh..). Why make a comment like this? That's just a typical example of someone making a comment that is completely insensitive.



My point here again was to try to express that some people may see "manwhore" as an inappropriate screen name. As a matter of fact, would "Ilikesex","whoreforsale" and all other such other words acceptable Screen names? Again, you just showed that you have little appreciation for differences in culture or sensitivity based on people background or culture.



I was not only refering to "law" but what is culturaly acceptable, nobody is really taking into account people's background when talking about racism... Someone from Canada can read a post from someone from china and consider what that person is posting racist, however the person from China had no intent to write anything racist, comments could have been made because of different culture, education, understanding, etc..



Anyways, again, I don't expect everyone to understand what I was trying to express.
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The Flea Trap / Re: Interracial Relationships
January 11, 2013, 04:09:11 AM
I came across this forum based on a linked that was posted on a related site.



I have to say, it's actually quite disturbing to see so many politically incorrect statement made by people who claim not to be racist. But then again, it's not always easy to realize what you say based on various sociological factors.



Asian Canadian Forum:

For someone that claims to be a non-racist, why have a forum for "asian" only?  What does this really means? Is the forum not welcoming people with a different background, culture or race? What about people from mixed races, if you parents are "asian" and "caucasian" do you "fit" in? What is your definition of "Asian"?



Whist you might not realize it, this "small label" might be seen by others as somewhat racist.



The point I am making is that everyone is entitled to their opinion and some people may indeed make some comments that can be innapropriate or inadequate without even realizing it.



As relates to being attracted to someone with specific physical trait this is just based on personal preferences (I can't explain why I like vanilla ice cream and no I am not racist because I don't like chocolate). I strongly believe that making comments based on someone's own experience and generalizing is not always a form of racism. It is also a bit dangerous to throw the word "racism" every time someone makes a comment about their experiences that may be with someone from a different race.



Let's take an example:

Fact: In Hong Kong, I find that 80 % of the asian population is shorter than I am. That's just a fact, doesn't mean it's a stereotype.



Stereotype: In Hong Kong, I bet 80 percent of the asian population is shorter than I am". This sentence would be based on a stereotype because the person making the statement may not have been to Hong Kong and experience this for him/herslef.



Dear Admin,



In regards abiding by the rules of this forum....As I just signed up, I saw the following statement: "You agree not to post any abusive, obscene, vulgar, slanderous, hateful, threatening, sexually-orientated or any other material that may violate any laws be it of your country, the country where "Asian Canadian Forum" is hosted or International Law. Doing so may lead to you being immediately and permanently banned, with notification of your Internet Service Provider if deemed required by us. "



A bit ironic in my opinion that you post a thank you to a new "member" as follows:

" Hello British Manwhore, nice to meet you and welcome."



I thought a "manwhore" would be been falling under a somewhat vulgar category and this would have automatically been qualifying for a ban...
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