A strange young man

[Anonymous]

An coworker told me something about her older sister's son this weekend that I found very strange and sad..



She told me that her nephew is 21 years old, does not go to university or have a job and spends almost every hour in self confinement in his bedroom..



He has never had a part time job, does not have a driver's license, no friends, has no ambition to do anything and has spent the three years since he graduated high school doing nothing..



He will not even come out of his bedroom to help his parents around the house..



My coworker told me he was an honor student in high school and her sister had high hopes for her son..



Has anyone ever known of anyone like this?



It seems so very sad.

[Renee]

Sounds like depression and a pretty severe case at that.

[Annie]

Has he been shy or liked being alone his whole life? Or is this something new or progressed? Could a life event thrown him for a loop? If the parents can talk to him and at least find out if anything is bothering him, that's a start.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like depression and a pretty severe case at that.

It does seem severe Renee..



An addiction to video games too.

[Annie]

Could he be addicted to gaming? Is there help for people with that type of addiction? I doubt there is though.

[Anonymous]

Has he been shy or liked being alone his whole life? Or is this something new or progressed? Could a life event thrown him for a loop? If the parents can talk to him and at least find out if anything is bothering him, that's a start.



Our son, when he was 15 had a breakdown (I had just told the family about my brain tumor, 3 months after my Dad passed away from brain cancer)  He became secluded and mopey. For the next couple years he seemed shy and alone, wouldn't go to school, wouldn't get another job (he quit his paper route)  It was a long difficult few years but we never gave up or got angry with him. He was in a depressive funk and was stuck. We got him all sorts of counselling that did help a bit but I think what worked the best was family communication.



I took him out every Sunday just he and I and we went to KFC for lunch to have a Mom and Son Day. It made a huge difference. We talked about everything. After just a couple times he opened up and broke down crying, he was just so scared. He told me he was scared to lose us and that he had been bullied at school. We got him into another high school and got his grade 12 only 1 year later than he should have.

He's now 23, has 2 jobs, living on his own with his GF and planning more secondary education courses.

What she has told me is that her nephew, who is an only child by the way, has been very spoiled..



He did not become withdrawn and lose interest in everything until he was in high school.

[Anonymous]

Could he be addicted to gaming? Is there help for people with that type of addiction? I doubt there is though.

There is help for people addicted to gaming.

http://www.techaddiction.ca/video-game-addiction.html">http://www.techaddiction.ca/video-game-addiction.html

[Annie]

There really is? That's awesome, I didn't know that.  Maybe he would be willing to seek help.

[Odinson]

They arent willing to do anything..



Had to drag some of these mamas boys even to shower in the army..



Cant believe these people are too scared to change their gear to clean ones every once in a while.

[Annie]

You know nothing Odi.

[Odinson]

You know nothing Odi.

Doesnt she say more like "nuthing"..



You know nuthing Jon Snow.

[Annie]

You know nothing John Snow..nope it's "nothing"

[Odinson]

You know nothing John Snow..nope it's "nothing"

She pronounces it funnily..



I have had trouble understanding a british person...



I just started copying their accent and in time begun to understand it.

[Annie]

It's a scottish accent  ac_smile  that's why

[Odinson]

It's a scottish accent  ac_smile  that's why

Good morrrning to you lassie..



Thats scottish accent.