Both our kids moved out today!

[Annie]

Both our adult kids moved out today. Son has an apartment with his girlfriend of 3 years and daughter is moving in with her girlfriend until her boyfriend and her get a place.  I'm happy for our son, he's ready but our daughter is so not ready or prepared. But I said ok fine go ahead and so she came by today and packed up a bunch of shit and left, each week she'll be back to get more. Her and I are not on speaking terms now, we had a disagreement about the stupidest shit, mainly brought on by her boyfriend. Hubby and I don't like him at all. Hubby wants to pinch his head off  ac_toofunny

[Anonymous]

Both our adult kids moved out today. Son has an apartment with his girlfriend of 3 years and daughter is moving in with her girlfriend until her boyfriend and her get a place.  I'm happy for our son, he's 22 and totally ready but our daughter is so not ready or prepared. But I said ok fine go ahead and so she came by today and packed up a bunch of shit and left, each week she'll be back to get more. Her and I are not on speaking terms now, we had a disagreement about the stupidest shit, mainly brought on by her boyfriend. Hubby and I don't like him at all. Hubby wants to pinch his head off  ac_toofunny

I don't know if I should congratulate you or hand you a box of tissue. Even if it doesn't work out for your daughter, hopefully she'll learn something from the experience.

[Annie]

Oh she'll be back, this is the second time she's suddenly moved out lol She just needs to have a taste of reality and it will sink in.....

[Anonymous]

Oh she'll be back, this is the second time she's suddenly moved out lol She just needs to have a taste of reality and it will sink in.....

How long was she gone the first time?

[Annie]

Like 2 weeks lol

[Anonymous]

Like 2 weeks lol

In other words, a glorified sleepover. Maybe it will last longer this time. Maybe, she'll mature from the experience too.

[Annie]

She has matured  a little here and there but she is mentality challenged , although she's high functioning and can fake it pretty well until things fall apart. The first time was last year and she went to live with her friend, I knew she'd be ok because the friend is a good friend we've know for a long time. This time she's moving in with her again and then getting a place with her controlling never shut up know it all annoying boyfriend. This next while be very interesting.

[Anonymous]

She has matured  a little here and there but she is mentality challenged , although she's high functioning and can fake it pretty well until things fall apart. The first time was last year and she went to live with her friend, I knew she'd be ok because the friend is a good friend we've know for a long time. This time she's moving in with her again and then getting a place with her controlling never shut up know it all annoying boyfriend. This next while be very interesting.

Lemme ask you this, do you see her ever being able to live on her own permanently? If so, roughly at what age do you foresee that happening?

[Annie]

I have no idea really, at the moment she's waiting for a liver transplant, she's mentally challenged and a bit gullable, she's fairly easily influenced. I still have full control of her finances and her medical decisions. She has a lot of memory problems and poor money management as well as cleaning and cooking. She needs someone to care for her really right now. She's 20 next month and wants to be "grown up" and I get it. For the longest time I've been trying to teach her the life skills she needs as an adult and she's been good so far with taking her bunch of supplements a day she needs, although I remind her a couple times a week. She's really good with where she's travelling to and knows her busses and stops. She's strong in some areas but other areas still needs help. Her transplant can happen anytime this year or next even, depending on how long we can make her existing liver last. After that she will need 3 months of 24 hour care, I'm worried if she's not home for that, none of her friends are prepared for that.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea really, at the moment she's waiting for a liver transplant, she's mentally challenged and a bit gullable, she's fairly easily influenced. I still have full control of her finances and her medical decisions. She has a lot of memory problems and poor money management as well as cleaning and cooking. She needs someone to care for her really right now. She's 20 next month and wants to be "grown up" and I get it.  For the longest time I've been trying to teach her the life skills she needs as an adult and she's been good so far with taking her bunch of supplements a day she needs, although I remind her a couple times a week.  She's really good with where she's travelling to and knows her busses and stops. She's strong in some areas but other areas still needs help. Her transplant can happen anytime this year or next even, depending on how long we can make her existing liver last. After that she will need 3 months of 24 hour care, I'm worried if she's not home for that, none of her friends are prepared for that.

Oh fuck, I forgot she needs a liver transplant. That certainly adds a different dynamic to the whole maturing thing. Her circumstances are so different, it's hard to say what is best for her.

[Annie]

Exactly, I'm in so many places right now  ac_crying

[Anonymous]

Both our adult kids moved out today. Son has an apartment with his girlfriend of 3 years and daughter is moving in with her girlfriend until her boyfriend and her get a place.  I'm happy for our son, he's ready but our daughter is so not ready or prepared. But I said ok fine go ahead and so she came by today and packed up a bunch of shit and left, each week she'll be back to get more. Her and I are not on speaking terms now, we had a disagreement about the stupidest shit, mainly brought on by her boyfriend. Hubby and I don't like him at all. Hubby wants to pinch his head off  ac_toofunny

I don't want to think about my children growing up and leaving me Annie..



I cried my eyes out when my daughter started her junior high school years..



I know I will face this some day, but I don't know how I will cope with it.

 ac_unsure

[Anonymous]

Both our adult kids moved out today. Son has an apartment with his girlfriend of 3 years and daughter is moving in with her girlfriend until her boyfriend and her get a place.  I'm happy for our son, he's ready but our daughter is so not ready or prepared. But I said ok fine go ahead and so she came by today and packed up a bunch of shit and left, each week she'll be back to get more. Her and I are not on speaking terms now, we had a disagreement about the stupidest shit, mainly brought on by her boyfriend. Hubby and I don't like him at all. Hubby wants to pinch his head off  ac_toofunny

I don't want to think about my children growing up and leaving me Annie..



I cried my eyes out when my daughter started her junior high school years..



I know I will face this some day, but I don't know how I will cope with it.

 ac_unsure

It's none of my business, but you got to be careful with the coddling, especially with your son. You want him to become a successful, masculine, type A REAL man don't you? Personally, I would rather my son have cancer than become some pathetic, effeminate, socialist, unskilled, useless homo idiot like the white "men" that remain in VF. Poor parenting allowed that injustice to society to happen. You got to push kids hard if you want results.



I am the tiger mommy, hear me ROAR!!.

[Renee]

Annie, I guess the best you can do is stay in close contact with your daughter without making it appear too intrusive. That's going to be a tough trick. I hope it all works out for you and her.



I found out what it's like when a child moves out this past year. My oldest went off to college and we only see her on holidays and breaks. I didn't think it was going to bother me too much until she was gone. It was traumatic for me beyond anything I expected. She's been out since late last August and I'm still not used to the idea.

[Anonymous]

Annie, I guess the best you can do is stay in close contact with your daughter without making it appear too intrusive. That's going to be a tough trick. I hope it all works out for you and her.



I found out what it's like when a child moves out this past year. My oldest went off to college and we only see her on holidays and breaks. I didn't think it was going to bother me too much until she was gone. It was traumatic for me beyond anything I expected. She's been out since late last August and I'm still not used to the idea.

So, I've heard. I lived at home when I was in uni. I'd say it's tough when they study out of town.