Should the Divorce Laws in Canada and the USA be overhauled?

[J0E]

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

Yes, I would like to see it become more difficult to get married and divorced.

[Bricktop]

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

Reference?



Here in Oz, there is no such thing as alimony. Only child support, which ceases when the child turns 16 unless the Court orders otherwise. There is no need to prove fault in a divorce application.



If a man fails to pay child support, he rightfully gets income garnished, and can be prevented from decamping overseas (Only if in default).



It seems odd that he has been paying for 20 years. What's he paying for? Child support for adults?

[J0E]

2 of his children are still living at home with the mother.



They are over the age of 18.



She appears to want them to stay with her, otherwise if they move out, then she will lose the benefit of the child support.



She works, has a job which pays more than her ex husband.

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

Reference?



Here in Oz, there is no such thing as alimony. Only child support, which ceases when the child turns 16 unless the Court orders otherwise. There is no need to prove fault in a divorce application.



If a man fails to pay child support, he rightfully gets income garnished, and can be prevented from decamping overseas (Only if in default).



It seems odd that he has been paying for 20 years. What's he paying for? Child support for adults?

[Anonymous]

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

Reference?



Here in Oz, there is no such thing as alimony. Only child support, which ceases when the child turns 16 unless the Court orders otherwise. There is no need to prove fault in a divorce application.



If a man fails to pay child support, he rightfully gets income garnished, and can be prevented from decamping overseas (Only if in default).



It seems odd that he has been paying for 20 years. What's he paying for? Child support for adults?

Maybe there is more than one child.

[J0E]

He had 8 children.

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

Reference?



Here in Oz, there is no such thing as alimony. Only child support, which ceases when the child turns 16 unless the Court orders otherwise. There is no need to prove fault in a divorce application.



If a man fails to pay child support, he rightfully gets income garnished, and can be prevented from decamping overseas (Only if in default).



It seems odd that he has been paying for 20 years. What's he paying for? Child support for adults?

Maybe there is more than one child.

[Lydo Wolf]

Real men pay their child support.

[RW]

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

Reference?



Here in Oz, there is no such thing as alimony. Only child support, which ceases when the child turns 16 unless the Court orders otherwise. There is no need to prove fault in a divorce application.



If a man fails to pay child support, he rightfully gets income garnished, and can be prevented from decamping overseas (Only if in default).



It seems odd that he has been paying for 20 years. What's he paying for? Child support for adults?

Back child support maybe?  Long standing arrears?  They will get you either way.



I believe we have alimony but I'm not sure.  I know a spouse can be entitled to portions of a divorced spouse's pension benefits.

[Anonymous]

Here's one sad man's tale which has made me consider this idea....



One of my friends who is divorced still owes his Ex-Wife/Province of British Columbia in Canada over $40,000 in child support

..and he hasn't slept with or been with her for nearly 20 years.

And he's paid over $300,000 so far.

The courts really struck it to him & have made him pay - Big Time.

He's gonna be paying this debt until he dies.

He related these details when I went to see him and his present wife last night.

Even she sided with him, and thought the system is out of whack with his situation and reality.

He can't even get a driver's license as the province took it away, so his present wife drives him everywhere.

He can't have a passport either as he's considered a flight risk who will leave the country and shirk his responsibilities.



It used to be that marriage meant til death do us part.

Now, it seems that divorce/alimony/child support is they only thing a man can hope to take to the grave.

Anyways, his ex has really stuck it to him and now is sure making him pay for his misery.



Oh well.

Reference?



Here in Oz, there is no such thing as alimony. Only child support, which ceases when the child turns 16 unless the Court orders otherwise. There is no need to prove fault in a divorce application.



If a man fails to pay child support, he rightfully gets income garnished, and can be prevented from decamping overseas (Only if in default).



It seems odd that he has been paying for 20 years. What's he paying for? Child support for adults?

Back child support maybe?  Long standing arrears?  They will get you either way.



I believe we have alimony but I'm not sure. I know a spouse can be entitled to portions of a divorced spouse's pension benefits.

I heard that.

[Renee]

For every screwed over divorced father there is probably at least double that number of screwed over mothers raising children alone from failed unions. While I believe the courts can be somewhat biased toward mothers and children, its the men who thought they were going to be free and clear of their responsibilities by divorcing their spouse who are the real problem.



I know several divorced women who have to scratch and claw for every dime that is owed to their kids because the father is a deadbeat or they simply have a lackadaisical attitude toward their responsibilities.



As it's been already said by the wolf dude...."real men pay their child support".

[Anonymous]

For every screwed over divorced father there is probably at least double that number of screwed over mothers raising children alone from failed unions. While I believe the courts can be somewhat biased toward mothers and children, its the men who thought they were going to be free and clear of their responsibilities by divorcing their spouse who are the real problem.



I know several divorced women who have to scratch and claw for every dime that is owed to their kids because the father is a deadbeat or they simply have a lackadaisical attitude toward their responsibilities.



As it's been already said by the wolf dude...."real men pay their child support".

Divorce is such an ugly thing Renee, even when it's necessary..



We have several divorced families in our church and they are the ones I know of..



It should be harder to get married.

[Renee]

For every screwed over divorced father there is probably at least double that number of screwed over mothers raising children alone from failed unions. While I believe the courts can be somewhat biased toward mothers and children, its the men who thought they were going to be free and clear of their responsibilities by divorcing their spouse who are the real problem.



I know several divorced women who have to scratch and claw for every dime that is owed to their kids because the father is a deadbeat or they simply have a lackadaisical attitude toward their responsibilities.



As it's been already said by the wolf dude...."real men pay their child support".

Divorce is such an ugly thing Renee, even when it's necessary..



We have several divorced families in our church and they are the ones I know of..



It should be harder to get married.

How so?

[RW]

If you have to be separated from someone for over a year before you can divorce, maybe you should have to be with someone for over a year before you can get married.

[Anonymous]

For every screwed over divorced father there is probably at least double that number of screwed over mothers raising children alone from failed unions. While I believe the courts can be somewhat biased toward mothers and children, its the men who thought they were going to be free and clear of their responsibilities by divorcing their spouse who are the real problem.



I know several divorced women who have to scratch and claw for every dime that is owed to their kids because the father is a deadbeat or they simply have a lackadaisical attitude toward their responsibilities.



As it's been already said by the wolf dude...."real men pay their child support".

Divorce is such an ugly thing Renee, even when it's necessary..



We have several divorced families in our church and they are the ones I know of..



It should be harder to get married.

How so?

I was wondering that too.



How would that be accomplished? Minimum age and length of relationship requirements? Proof of financial means? Compatibility testing? Lie detector tests?

[J0E]

Ironically, the new Divorce laws can be as much as a trap for the women as the men.

Women with wealth are finding themselves trapped in having to make large alimony payments to their exes as well: