I asked my shrink today

[Angry White Male]

I do believe that most single and available people simply look for love in all the wrong places.



There are decent people out there, but finding them is the difficult part.  Fuck online dating.  Fuck the bar scene.  You'll only find losers using these methods.



Work can be a place to meet a significant other, but not always...  My industry is filled with men.  



As an example, I met my ex at an old-folks home that my Grandmother had to stay in during her final year or so.  She worked there.  This is an example of 'by chance' meeting.  It didn't work out with her, but it's an example of how broadening ones horizon can bring you into contact with people that you normally would never meet.

[cc]

Yes. But, there are some around ... those who got out of loser relationships who do not have the problem described in the OP and want a good one the next time around .. they just may not put themselves out there openly



I know this from personal experience .... ditched the hubby from hell who had conned me into thinking he was OK (my fault) ... spent a lot of time alone ..  and then found my current and now longtime winner



It was easy for me to find my good one as I had created and hosted an upscale  singles dinner club (with dancing after) at the best places in Victoria as a business .... as hostess / owner I of course was not supposed to "sample the goodies", but out of the blue I found my winner, fudged on the rules a bit, got to know him  and quickly sold the club



Damn it was funny the last 3 group dinners before new owner took over - many funny stories how we got together initially  ... and  and  as I wanted my new find there for the long Saturday evenings on the town but had to remain neutral to do my job responsibly for the paying members ... doing our best to pretend we were not crazy in love and lust and being sociable to others who were there to meet people and considered us as possible "prospects".

So...you were a pimp?



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[Angry White Male]

There are now 109 million Americans, 18 and older, who are divorced, widowed or have always been single. That's 45 percent of the adult population.

[Blazor]

I wish I could program my brain to think and feel like guys do....you know, turn my feelings off and on like a faucet.

I think some guys that get brought up in the rough life, deal with the hurt and such early on, and become numb to pains and such. Some women do too, but I believe the numbers are stacked higher with the guys, so thats why it looks like we can turn shit off now and then lol.



Its easy to go from this...



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to this...



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[Blazor]

I do believe that most single and available people simply look for love in all the wrong places.



There are decent people out there, but finding them is the difficult part.  Fuck online dating.  Fuck the bar scene.  You'll only find losers using these methods.



Work can be a place to meet a significant other, but not always...  My industry is filled with men.  



As an example, I met my ex at an old-folks home that my Grandmother had to stay in during her final year or so.  She worked there.  This is an example of 'by chance' meeting.  It didn't work out with her, but it's an example of how broadening ones horizon can bring you into contact with people that you normally would never meet.

Aint this the damn truth!



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[Anonymous]

^^ A very "classy upscale Victoria dinner club" I choose to call it  ac_biggrin



Damn - I rarely screw up and place a long important-to-me (and words for others to not give up) post at the bottom of page (a lost post)

It all became a big part of our lives and many years of a great and mutually productive relationship

please allow me to bring it forward -

Yes. But, there are some good ones around ... those who got out of loser relationships who do not have the problem described in the OP and want a good one the next time around .. they just may not put themselves out there openly



I know this from personal experience .... ditched the hubby from hell who had conned me into thinking he was OK (my fault) ... spent a lot of time alone ..  and then found my current and now longtime winner



It was easy for me to find my good one as I had created and hosted an upscale  singles dinner club (with dancing after) at the best places in Victoria as a business .... as hostess / owner I of course was not supposed to "sample the goodies", but out of the blue I found my winner, fudged on the rules a bit, got to know him  and quickly sold the club



Damn it was funny the last 3 group dinners before new owner took over - many funny stories how we got together initially  ... and  and  as I wanted my new find there for the long Saturday evenings on the town but had to remain neutral to do my job responsibly for the paying members ... doing our best to pretend we were not crazy in love and lust and being sociable to others who were there to meet people and considered us as possible "prospects".

For those programmed to losers, they will find what they seek easily



For those who want winners, it isn't as easy, but can happen if you try ... put yourself out in the right places and right situations ... Winners are out there



We had a lot of good people in my upscale Victoria restaurant group ... about 50 members in all and about 15 - 20 at each individual dinner .. I would book an off to the side semi private area  of a top restaurant based on commitments for each Saturday night dinner



I interviewed every potential member (in a "safe neutral ground" upscale pub in the heart of downtown Victoria") to be sure we had the right people ... that's how I met my guy ... he never had a chance as by the time for first dinner we had already got to know each other  ... so he never got to really meet others on a true get to know basis ... the first guy that I accepted a dinner invite for the evening of the interview ... that dinner itself was whole other funny story that we often joke about fondly ... as were my last 3 hostess dinners while waiting for the new club owner to take over ... with us pretending we didn't know each other well and both of us wishing the event to end ASAP



Interviewing  the prospective member who turned out to be an upscale escort pimp   ... and thus failed the cut ... was another funny tail ... naive moi took a while to catch on to what he was about .... it took a high paid job offer  to clue me in



Several marriages ultimately resulted ... most seemed like they would be good ones .... and it resulted in a good one for me, even though I was dedicated to being a good organizer / hostess  ... and not sample the goods  



All good memories I savor - I called it " Club Xanadu" (Xanadu: land of idyllic magnificence and beauty)

I agree wholeheartedly cc, and one should never compromise if they are are seeking someone for a relationship..



People that end up with losers usually don't want commitment anyway..



How did you start an upscale matchmaking service?

[Angry White Male]

How did you start an upscale matchmaking service?

Jewish genes provide her with formidable business sense and acumen.  Don't even try to compete...

[Anonymous]

How did you start an upscale matchmaking service?

Jewish genes provide her with formidable business sense and acumen.  Don't even try to compete...

I wouldn't think of it..



I'm not much of a matchmaker.

[Anonymous]

Look what that dumbass fleabag wrote on another forum

Fact - all the good men are either married or gay

Fact- the problem is you, ya gomer.

[Bricktop]

There's no hiding on the internet any more...post in one place, appear in another.

[Erica Mena]

Look what that dumbass fleabag wrote on another forum

Fact - all the good men are either married or gay

Fact- the problem is you, ya gomer.

Oh look, the tight eyed dog eater is stalking me now







I forgot to mention the good dudes aren't n1ggers either  

[Bricktop]

What ever happened to the fairer sex?



Ladies...please...

[Anonymous]

Look what that dumbass fleabag wrote on another forum

Fact - all the good men are either married or gay

Fact- the problem is you, ya gomer.

Oh look, the tight eyed dog eater is stalking me now







I forgot to mention the good dudes aren't n1ggers either  

Reading posts elsewhere is not stalking, and people that continuously use lame racial stereotypes and slurs lack imagination.

[Anonymous]

Look what that dumbass fleabag wrote on another forum

Fact - all the good men are either married or gay

Fact- the problem is you, ya gomer.

Oh look, the tight eyed dog eater is stalking me now







I forgot to mention the good dudes aren't n1ggers either  

Reading posts elsewhere is not stalking, and people that continuously use lame racial stereotypes and slurs lack imagination.

Fleabag is paranoid. Another reason good men won't touch her uneducated ghetto ass with a ten metre disinfectant pole.



It is fun watching the mental midget take the bait though.

[Erica Mena]

Look what that dumbass fleabag wrote on another forum

Fact - all the good men are either married or gay

Fact- the problem is you, ya gomer.

Oh look, the tight eyed dog eater is stalking me now







I forgot to mention the good dudes aren't n1ggers either  

Reading posts elsewhere is not stalking, and people that continuously use lame racial stereotypes and slurs lack imagination.

Following me and Carrying my posts over to other forums is considered stalking. Chun li started the racial slams...don't expect me to drop em anytime soon. She's lucky that's all she's getting